un: phoenixevolution

[manufactured]

So many questions about relationships, about partnerships and the like, since I've arrived here. For those that choose to engage in such things, I suppose my primary question to you is why.

This is a world where affection is a commodity; I would think it more beneficial to most to treat it as such. There seems to be little point in dedicating oneself to others that are in just as much of a coerced situation, short of making it seem slightly more bearable.

While I'm sure this will be harped on as pointlessly cynical by those with nothing better to do, I consider it more a point of curiosity. It's interesting to me that some will invest themselves so fully into something that essentially doesn't matter – to the world or otherwise.

[...It's not so much cynical as it is making you sound at least mildly like a psychopath, Wesker, but whatever.]

Comments

[liberaltus]

Pointlessly cynical, not at all, it's more like a void.

For most people these things can be easily explained: you cannot control with respect to whom you bear your affections to...it's much easier to choose whom we do not love.

text | j.valentine

[torsion]

Your opinions are the same as any other. You're not special just because you're "different".
And this is coming from someone who doesn't care about those sorts of questions.

text | un: demonchef

[satanslash]

wow thats kind of a dick way to look at it

its fine if you dont wanna get attached but dont knock what other people do because of that

we're all just trying to get by here man

[Text, UN: bardic_uncertainty]

[have_hat_will_travel]

If nothing else, that sounds like a terribly boring way to exist. Without connections... Scarcely worth calling 'living' at all, I'd say.

[whateternityis]

Bold of you to assume everyone met here for the first time.

text | simonprime

[theseuschip]

You must be fun at parties.
What does matter?

un: anema nera

[goingsoft]

I mean, I could be glib and say you kind of answered your own question there in most cases somewhere between 'more bearable' and 'nothing better to do'.

But if you want something that covers everyone? There's no one reason, not unless you boil it down to something as useless as 'because they want to'. Some people want to make the best of this place, and their definition of making the best of things just so happens to involve 'fawning all over so and so, who is ideally fawning over them right back'.

text | un: springtime

[hopticulture]

When you have a choice in the matter it just feels nicer when you're with someone you like.

I know there are some people who still think about it like a commodity, but it's just a matter of personal preference. It can't be helped.

Text: UN: hopefulfuture

[despairing_hope]

If I don't have any feelings for the other person, why would I want them around? Even if it's a commodity, it's not as if you have to have a relationship to survive. Casual interaction is more than sufficient, so there's no reason to engage in anything more if you don't really want to.

un: aziraphale (because why bother being creative)

[gaveitaway]

It would appear my own significant other has already explained our particular situation, so I won't bother repeating it.

However, I would like to add, if I may, that such things are only meant to be important to the people involved. Whether one's relationship matters to the rest of the world or not is entirely irrelevant. Being in a relationship is often about what you bring to one another, how you can help each other grow or heal. Devoting oneself to a single person over many is, I believe, a matter of convenience -- less navigation and baggage to deal with, you see, and more time to help with one another's -- and, often, socialization. Many cultures I've experienced laud monogamy over any alternatives.

I do hope this helps shed some light on the matter.

text; un: 1stQadrMargaFan

[wearingguess]

I am interested by the way you are singling out relationships here in this place as uniquely meaningless!
That is, it seems that you are saying that a relationship between two people who are both living in their original world would indeed matter / be worthwhile in some way. But since we are all living here, outside our worlds of origin, forming connections and relationships has been rendered pointless. Do I understand it correctly?

text; un: sansastark

[clothed]

There's comfort to be found in the familiar. Likely it extends to relationships, intimate and otherwise.