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[dvine]

One of my friends asked me for relationship advice recently and something crossed my mind as we were talking (which led to me not being able to stop thinking about it).

Do you guys date here?

No, let me explain that.

How do you handle relationships here? Is it easier or harder to maintain it with these moonblessings coming up to interfere?

And I mean PROPER relationship. Those that have all types of feelings involved and stuff.

Sure you can lock yourself up in a room to try and not do anything stupid, but does that help?

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@viewfinder

[burstmodes]

[ He thinks about sending this as a PM, but for now... well, he can keep it vague. ]

i used to think it was hard
but it gets easier
you know especially if you talk about it first

[dvine]

How do you bring it up though?
"Hey I know we're dating but I also have urges to see other people"?
I mean, some people aren't as open about it

[burstmodes]

nah it's more like
well...

[ Wow, this is hard. ]

you mostly wanna be with that person right?
but you can't really help if other stuff happens with other people too??
guess that sounds kinda complicated

text | anon

[dereban]

Personally, I don't, but that's for my own personal reasons over me wanting or not wanting to date someone. But I don't think that actually having one is a bad thing? you just need to deal with a fuckton of communication with whoever ends up being your partner.

As for moonblessings, it depends on which one you have and how it affects you/your partner. Again, definitely something to talk with them about if you did do that.

[dvine]

I am not in a relationship either, which is why I'm asking this
thought to clear some things out before I even try to do ask someone out

I just can't wrap my head around it; it really seems hard and more trouble than it is worth to have a relationship here

[dereban]

Makes sense.

But to say something from my personal experience: relationships are going to be difficult, no matter where you are. Moonblessings or not. If you can't have a relationship being able to go over this hurdle, why have one at all?

@devil.breaker

[devilbreak]

Yeah, I date that dude a few comments up.

In general, moonblessings just make everything harder. Relationships are no exception. But I agree that communication is important. It can’t work otherwise. Trust and communication is all you got in a place like this where candies might make you dry hump someone or something.

I’m pretty sure ours is a proper relationship, so I hope that helps?

[dvine]

Oh really? That's pretty cool!

I suppose there are people that can talk it out I guess; that are more tolerant and all, nonjudgemental I guess?
I guess I was used to seeing breaking news where people kill each other in a jealous rage for being with another person, but I guess that's because it's cheating?
I was worried something like that happens around here

It does! It's actually a relief to see that there are people dating here
as in
DATING dating
not "seeing each other for moonlancing" dating

[devilbreak]

Ideally I would prefer not to have to put up with all the bullshit, but if it’s the only way we can be together realistically, then I’ll take it.

We were together before here, in a place worse than this one. So, comparatively, it’s not that bad. I’m sure it’s not impossible though. To date in the traditional sense? It’d just take a lot of planning ahead and quarantining yourself, I guess.. 🤔

@lettuceclub81

[kozyhanaji]

I know my experience isn’t the same as others, but as of now keeping to myself during the moonblessings has worked out for me! I’m in a relationship with only one other and, as far as I’m aware anyway, he has not sought anyone else out either during his moonblessing. I’m Sanguis and he’s Iris and he keeps to himself as well during his time.

We aren’t quite ready to go that far yet so we’ve just dealt with those urges on our own. We generally also talk a lot to each other about what’s been happening so I would like to think if anything did change on who we would, um, go that far with that we would talk it out first.

As others have said, keeping communication open is key although I see that it can be easier said than done with this place. I hope this helps though!

[dvine]

Hmmm
A sanguis and iris, aren't those two the most compatible ones? Just judging from characteristics alone that I heard. It seems like you two really click together.

You manage to keep to yourself and stay indoors for days on end? How do you do that? Don't you get bored inside the apartment?

Well, here's to hoping that people are understanding. It does help though, thanks for responding! ✨

[kozyhanaji]

Oh you’re welcome! 😊

Are they the most compatible? I hadn’t heard that myself but I guess I hadn’t looked too hard into it myself. That’s something I should definitely research more! I did investigative reporting for my school paper, I can’t fall behind now!!

But anyway, I don’t always stay indoors. Sometimes it isn’t as bad so I go out to get groceries or workout or something. Getting food helps because Eikichi, my boyfriend, is a really good cook! It helps keep him occupied during his time and I’ve dabbled myself if I’m cooped up. Otherwise, bringing the entertainment home can help? Games and movies and the like! It’s not all bad staying inside if you’re able to keep yourself occupied.

text;

[unhappy]

Sei and Chihiro and I just make sure to give each other a lot of attention. Chihiro takes care of Sei more during Iris, then I usually don't talk to anyone but them during Sanguis because I get insanely jealous and clingy.

Like, there was one time I wanted to come hunt you down and kick your ass after I smelled you at Sei's place during Sanguis even though I know you said you wouldn't want to do anything to interfere. Totally fine the rest of the month... but since we know that, we just take precautions.

[dvine]

Oh wow
um
I think I'll reinforce my apartment tnx for letting me know :D!

[He's not sure if she's joking or no, so he'll still do it. Maybe change apartments. Like, get one that's very far away. Translated, he's afraid and wants to live, ktnx. And she's a little less cute now.]

Well, there's already three of you there and you seem to navigate it

Aside from wish to hunt me down, you guys didn't have much trouble with the relationship?

[unhappy]

It was only that one time and that was like, my first moon so I didn't see it coming. I'm in control of it. Besides, if I wanted to come after you I could do it whether you reinforced it or not, you'd let me right through the front door. I'm not going to so don't waste your money. I'm almost a whole year crime-free.

[ Almost a year!! That's a lot! Well like except she steals food off of peoples' plates but that's not a real crime... Yeah, she doesn't know if he's joking or not either, but since she's serious she decides to answer seriously. Don't go waste your chroma, Kise, she's not harmless by any means but she's not going to hurt you!! ]

We did when we talked about emergencies, like if someone was injured and needed chroma ASAP. All three of us get jealous so there's no way that conversation was going to go well...

text; un: fantasma

[teaserving]

yeah im in a pretty good relationship honestly
i love him a lot
i think it's probably harder on him since he's iris
but we make it work
plan around when moonblessings are gonna happen and spend time with each other more during then

not really a big deal to me

[dvine]

Yeah Irises seem to have it the worst here
how do they say it, drew the short end of the stick?
Their moonblessing period is like 8 days long ;;

But making plans around it sounds like a good thing
Do you mostly spend time inside or do you go out as well?

[teaserving]

usually stay inside during iris
definitely inside during triple moon
id probably start fights during triple moon honestly
sanguis on top of an already shitty attitude

text | permanon

[affabel]

A lot of what happens seems to be mostly out of our control.

It doesn't really hurt less to acknowledge that but it's also something we all have to deal with and not isolated, intentional, cases. So I guess we all just have to decide for ourselves how much we're willing to take on and if it's worth it.

[He is not having a good time dealing with this but he's curious too. Not enough to attach his name though.]

[dvine]

That's basically why I'm asking as well. Some relationships can't take on this strain, no matter how much people want to make it work. So what do you do then? I'm honestly completely clueless.

[ But that can also come from his general inexperience. ]

[affabel]

[Well, same hat. Mostly.]

Do you ever sometimes say the things this place makes you think about out loud?

What if the person I was dating slept with someone else, because of the moon? Can I really blame them for it? Would I be able to forgive them, or find a way to accept things neither of us can control?

I don't know how anyone's supposed to answer that sort of thing. Maybe after enough time spent here it just becomes a new normal.

un: punlifetolive

[purrrrfection]

[This is gonna be a lot.]

Speaking from personal experience, the important things in a situation like that are communication and honesty. Open relationships are somewhat common where I hail from.

It's an incredibly complicated topic and I think anyone considering it really needs to ask themselves honestly if they're willing to deal with all that comes with it. You know, possible jealousy, guilt, that sort of thing.

I had an open marriage back home for a time. Personally, I wouldn't readily revisit that particular choice... but I think if the right person came along it would at least be worth revisiting. I'm not sure if any of that answers your questions.

un: amber

[spiria]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while. It's not always easy, but we do manage to make it work well enough. The moonblessings here are not nearly as bad as the things we went through in the previous world we were in, so ...

I think if you have the right person, you'll find a way to make it work even when things are rough.

text, un: piercedyourheart92

[piercedyourheart]

i cant say if its easier or harder bc thatll depend on your relationship
but my girlfriend and i talked out ground rules a while ago
and since then its been nice. like i didnt have to worry before but i definitely dont worry now

[dvine]

I'm not really in a relationship right now

[What is a relationship?]

I'm asking just in case y'know
It seems most people's answer is that which is fair