☽ IV: text; un: anonymous

[inabluemoon]

How can you make yourself fall out of love with someone?

Or better yet: how do you stop someone from falling in love with you?

[But he's definitely just asking for a friend and not for himself at all. He definitely didn't get a canon update or anything, nope.]

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( text, un: lavieenrose )

[affectueux]

These are questions I would like answers to, as well, but I think love was made not to be so easy.

We love for all sorts of reasons. Platonic, romantic, familial. If it were as easy as snuffing out a candle to turn that love away from ourselves and others, what would be the point of feeling it at all? God made love to endure, even when it’s difficult, and the rewards of loving and being loved are unspeakably precious.

I may be getting off track. You’re probably already annoyed, hearing my lecture.

My point is this. What you may find undesirable or weak might be the greatest strength another person has. “One man’s trash,” as they say!

In a world full of cruelty, where no one at all owes you their kindness, love is the only weapon normal people could hope to wield against such despair. You shouldn’t write it off so quickly, in yourself or in others—it may one day be all you have left.

Yours,
Serge

[inabluemoon]

[Did this guy serious sign it like a letter?! Vanitas almost wants to reveal himself just to mock him for that... Almost.]

You're right that the world is cruel, but love isn't some shield or weapon against the harshness of reality. It's just a weakness that leaves you all the more vulnerable, and it certainly won't give me any solace when I die.

[affectueux]

[ this asshole sounds strangely familiar, but there are so many people in lunatia. surely it couldn’t be him. ]

Well, you’re right that love won’t protect you from everything. In the end, my parents died for their love. But would I call their love a weakness? It took them away from me, after all.

No, I wouldn’t. Their love was, I think, what saved their hearts from the reality that the world was going to punish them for their happiness.

Putting it like that, maybe love sounds delusional. Maybe it is! But it is a delusion that serves us well.

[inabluemoon]

If they would have lived otherwise then yes, it was a weakness. Clinging to something and trying to protect it is just a glaring weak spot that will only get exploited, and trying to delude yourself into thinking otherwise is just going to be worse in the end.

I've never had the luxury of living in such a delusion and I'm not interested in starting.

[affectueux]

[ no, this person really does sound so familiar. serge thinks he should adjust his approach accordingly, but it’s harder to do when he can’t see any facial expressions. ]

They would have lived. Of that I am sure. Yet they wouldn’t have been happy.

If that isn’t important to you, however, then I’ll never change your mind. I can only tell you what I know. I don’t think that you should try to discourage anyone else from loving you—it is their burden to bear, not yours, if you so certainly believe you haven’t the time for love.

For your own feelings, you may never get rid of them. But fighting them will only make them harder to forget.

[inabluemoon]

So you think it's wrong of me to try and keep someone from putting themselves through all of that when they shouldn't love me in the first place?

Well then what do YOU propose I do with myself like this?

[affectueux]

Make yourself worthy of that love, to whatever your standards are. That’s all you can do, no?

It comes with the added benefit of making you a generally more pleasant person to be around.

[inabluemoon]

I'm not interested in anyone who would love me.

[affectueux]

Yes, it seems so.

Improve yourself for your own sake, at least. It doesn’t have to be about loving or being loved by someone, but this attitude comes from somewhere.

And if you really, truly hate it, maybe being nicer will make this person fall out of love with you, because you’ll be so different.

[ he’s only this cheeky now because he thinks it’s vanitas… it might still be inappropriate humor considering their last conversation, but he’s willing to take the risk. ]

[inabluemoon]

I tried that! I only approached her like I did in the first place because I was certain she'd hate it! And for a while she would threaten me and get angry and it was exciting and funny... She definitely despised it so I don't know why that changed!

[The problem is that Vanitas can be charming and a gentleman, he's just selective about when he does it... And that's usually dictated by whim or when he just wants to mess with someone or get something. So when things backfire so badly he's completely thrown off.]

[affectueux]

Oh dear. So all this time, you did it to yourself.

[ he laughs softly at his device, even if he shouldn’t. no one has to know. ]

Perhaps it serves you right for playing with a girl’s heart.

[inabluemoon]

[This guy......]

I didn't do this to myself! And I wasn't playing with anyone's heart, there was no way she was supposed to feel anything for me in the first place!

[affectueux]

[ no, he really shouldn’t be laughing, but if this is vanitas, it’s giving him a good bit of amusement to imagine him so flustered. he’ll sincerely help later, if vanitas ever reveals he needs it, but for now… ]

A lady’s heart is unpredictable. I’m sure you’re very handsome as well, so it’s not unreasonable that even cruelty could be construed as flirtation.

[inabluemoon]

Physical attraction is one thing, but to confuse THAT so utterly...

No one is that stupid!

[Of course he says that, yet Noé and Roland both are pretty much impervious to and unwavered by his constant threats.]

[affectueux]

They are. You overestimate people when it comes to love.

[inabluemoon]

Gross! That's why this is the worst!

[affectueux]

How old are you, I wonder? You’re beginning to sound like the first-years at my old boarding school. There was a boy, Sebastien… he must be about twelve, by now.

[inabluemoon]

[Ooookay he is so close to hunting Serge down and decking him. He's definitely intentionally messing with him now.]

Much older than you, if you're hanging around with twelve year-olds. Do they tuck you in at night?

[affectueux]

[ regardless of who this is, he sounds much better than he did at the beginning of the post. good work, serge. ]

The other way around, and I’m sure there’s room for you too if you remember to say s’il vous plait.

[inabluemoon]

As if I would ever do that!

[affectueux]

Then your manners are even worse than Sebastien’s.

I’m sorry. I might be teasing a little too much.

[inabluemoon]

You are. And it's not even helpful teasing.

[affectueux]

Helpful teasing!

What sort of teasing is that?

[inabluemoon]

The helpful kind, obviously.

No wonder you hang around with children.

[affectueux]

Helpful teasing sounds just a little bit like friendship.

And after friendship, who knows? If I tease you too well, you might fall in love.