text | anon

[satanslash]

i know romance questions annoy everyone here but too bad im asking anyway

if you were able to choose how someone proposed to you
(yes, as in marriage proposal)

what would you want to happen

small, big? public, private?

no you dont need to know why im asking thats why its anon

Comments

[satanslash]

im getting that a lot so its probably a good idea

i still want it to be a surprise tho

[deerhearted]

I think a private affair is more suited regardless. People can feel pressured if asked in front of an audience.

Maybe you could have a small, special feast and pop the question then. Food brings people together!

[noenvy]

That's the only reality I've ever known. Though, some families at least will look for people their children will get along with, and cancel stuff with people they don't like. But good luck if the family hates the other person, even if they love each other.

[undeserted]

You're on the same page though right?
Like you've talked about it before?
If you haven't then it might not end up being a good surprise

[text @hot.damn]

[circumitus]

only assholes who want to pressure someone into saying yes would propose in public so take that shit in private

otherwise make it as big or small as you feel like
personally would prefer something small but not sure
never considered the possibility of anyone proposing so its a dumb hypothetical to think about anyway

un: qihsae

[instaqueue]

It has to be something grand and in public! You want to announce your love to the whole world, don't you? A large banner or a big announcement in a public square would be perfect!

[ I'm sorry, he's dumb. ]

[triggerhappytraitor]

It's not about a specific answer, but knowing what sort of thing they like or don't like.

text, un: birdinthehand

[chichichi]

What a set of questions, Anonymous. You don't have anyone you would've thought to ask about the matter privately?

[ Setsura does, in fact, have tact. She'll switch it to private after this if he doesn't first, but really, Rin is so obvious to her. She has to tease him a little before she's properly helpful. ]

text | j.valentine

[torsion]

Just us. Private.
Nothing forced or fake or weird that isn't like the other person or us.

Not too hard.

And I'm pretty sure it's obvious why you're asking.

[satanslash]

hey it could be for anything!

like uh




a stage play?

yeah

[Jill, meet dumbass. Dumbass, Jill.]

[satanslash]

[Bless you for your tact.

But also nervous sweating intensifies.]

i wanted more than one opinion

[satanslash]

i know plenty about what she likes and dislikes that doesnt mean we've talked about this exact thing

and i want it to be a surprise

[Why does no one seem to get that if he talks to Kohaku about it, she's going to know what he's planning?!]

[satanslash]

youre the only person who seems to think so

[torsion]

Would've been convincing if you didn't question it when telling me.

But hey, I'll entertain that it's for a play.

I guess in reality it doesn't matter how I'd want it. It's what the person you or I guess your character would want and be comfortable with. If you know them enough to marry them, you know them enough to figure out what they'd be happiest with.

[ What a smooth guy! ]

[satanslash]

i can be kind of a jerk sometimes but not to her i wouldnt want to do that

and hey you never know i didnt think id be here ever either

[satanslash]

yeah a few have already said that

she does like my cooking a lot

[satanslash]

we've talked about our future a lot
how we'd like to try to stay together or at least find each other again if we get seperated like we did before

this is the second time we wound up in the same place together like this

[satanslash]

yeah i know marriage used to be more about power and whatever the parents really wanted but its really not like that anymore where im from

[satanslash]

... yeah it was a bullshit excuse even over text i cant lie for shit heh

but thanks

i do know what she likes but ive never even thought id be with someone long enough to get to this point
so im kinda
freaking out a little?

[torsion]

Can't say I know what it's like to be married.

Just take it easy and take time if you need to, yeah? You rush into it when your head isn't on straight and you'll make the wrong decision. Give yourself a break and you'll be fine.

[instaqueue]

Well, these people clearly don't understand the point of a grand, romantic gesture!

If this is someone you're close to, and you've spoken about marriage before, then there's no reason they'd say no!

[ His heart is in the right place, I promise. ]

[noenvy]

Power, politics, friendships.

You really are lucky to have that choice.

I think you should make your proposal as romantic as possible. Maybe with a poem somewhere beautiful.

[satanslash]

im one of those people who like
screwed up a lot in life before now so im worried im gonna blow it with this too

but
yeah im not gonna go running to her right this second
hell ive been thinking about it for a while

[torsion]

In my experience, worrying about how you were before doesn't help, either. Hell, if you think they might be alright with you asking them how they want a proposal, you can even ask about that.

That's good. I didn't think you were just asking on a whim, so you know.
I think most people take it really seriously, here or otherwise.

[satanslash]

[It is! But...]

isnt the wedding the big grand romantic gesture?