text | anon

[satanslash]

i know romance questions annoy everyone here but too bad im asking anyway

if you were able to choose how someone proposed to you
(yes, as in marriage proposal)

what would you want to happen

small, big? public, private?

no you dont need to know why im asking thats why its anon

Comments

text | un: seashell

[justsomeshrimp]

I would personally prefer something private and small.
To be asked in public would make me feel very put on the spot.

[satanslash]

what like youd absolutely have to say yes because it was public?

[justsomeshrimp]

Yes. I mean, depending on circumstances I think I might still be able to say no but I would feel very guilty doing it.
That is a pretty big decision after all.
Even if you love the person with all your heart it might not be the time.
Turning them down knowing how much it might hurt then would be difficult enough, but turning them down when so many people are watching would be harder and in the moment I might commit to something I'm not sure I'm ready for.

text | un: juno

[beautifulbeast]

[Oh lord, hold on while she rolls out her romantic notions here.]

Well... I would want it somewhere a little romantic. Not just out on the street but it wouldn't have to be in public or private specifically.

Maybe something like a nice day out with a proposal at sunset. Oh, or a homecooked meal and the engagement ring slipped into a wine glass, I've seen that in movies before!

However I think as long as there was thought and feelings put into it, I would be happy!

[satanslash]

oh
yeah i can see why youd worry about that

i dont think this person would turn me down because they dont love me but they might if it wasnt the right time

weve been together about a year now but it hasnt exactly been a normal relationship? where we met and how it started was weird and kind of dangerous and i dont think either of us really felt comfortable and relaxed until we got here

[satanslash]

dinner i could do
dunno if they actually like wine? never asked we're not big drinkers anyway but it could probably be put in something else right?

but like they know i cook well would that be too expected???

shit the more i think about this the more i second guess everything

[justsomeshrimp]

Was that place your home?
Either way, if you met somewhere dangerous I could see why that would complicate things.
Yet sometimes you can see people's truest colors in such situations so it could also work towards making it stronger.

What about you though?
If they were the one to propose to you, how would you prefer they went about it?

[beautifulbeast]

I'm sure it could. Or you don't have to do that really, I just watch a lot of dramas at home, haha. I really love the romantic proposals in them~.

Ahhh it sounds so exciting though! It must be nerve-wracking but I bet you're excited too, right?
So don't be too hard on yourself!

[satanslash]

no we're one of the weird ones that got taken to another place before this one

me?

man
iunno
i never really thought about it but i also never thought id meet someone who felt the same way about me

[Plus a lot of traditions are still in play in Japan, and women don't generally propose to men. He's trying to avoid giving away too much of his identity though.]

[satanslash]

its
yeah im real excited
and nervous

iunno what theyre gonna say
but i may already have the ring picked out?

like this is gonna happen even if i completely screw it up

Text | TachibanaS

[triggerhappytraitor]

If you know someone well enough to propose to them, shouldn't you know what they'd prefer?

text | un: cross-z

[polypeptide]

[ Oof, now here's a bittersweet sounding question. ]

It's better when it's just the two of you. No one else needs to be around.

Text: UN: whatever

[noenvy]

I've never thought of someone proposing to me before. Or at all. I don't think it matters. All that matters is you share your heartfelt feelings honestly and the other person understands. It can be anywhere!

I guess I sort of proposed in the rain, while being held, hostage.

But that just adds flavor to how important getting your feelings across is at the right time. Who cares if someone is about to slit my throat, this needs to be settle first.

text | un: 🏹

[deerhearted]

I'd say it depends on the person.

Are they the type to like big, public events like that?

[satanslash]

do perfect proposals come up naturally in conversation for you?

[He's a dumbass but even he knows that's kind of weird.]

[satanslash]

theres someone who is like family to me i might want around for it but they dont have to be

[satanslash]

thats

not how i would like it to go down but uh you do you i guess?

im really hoping it is the right time

[noenvy]

It suited the moment.

Formal proposals are annoying anyway. Sending gifts and money, going over price, negotiating with family.

Better to elope.

[satanslash]

dont know
never really came up

i know she likes spending time with me though

[satanslash]

what hell no we're not eloping

theres no family to negotiate with! neither of our brothers are here and our parents are all gone

and even if we did have family here its our decision not theirs

[noenvy]

Really?

You get to have that choice?

That's amazing! I almost envy you.

[satanslash]

marriages set up by families still happen in some parts of the world but most places dont anymore

people find it pretty gross tbh

[deerhearted]

Well, what kind of person is she? Is she the quiet type, or the more outgoing type? If she's shy, she'll probably be better off with a private proposal.

I know you asked what kind of proposal I would want, but everyone's different. What I would want could be different than what another person wants!

[satanslash]

[Oops he meant to keep saying "they" and not gender the person in question for that whole anonymity thing, but if a certain someone hasn't called him out by now maybe he got away with it already.]

shes not shy shes actually a lot more social than i am

i guess i should have just asked 'what are some good proposal ideas' instead of being so specific

text; un: marmorapaladin

[undeserted]

I wouldn't want anything big and public
it's tacky and puts pressure on people
but I think you should just ask the person what they like.