Kaji Akihiko (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
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prismatica2020-10-11 01:59 am
rippingu) wrote in prismatica2020-10-11 01:59 am
I've done a lot of things in my life but never that; ANONYMOUS TEXT
[He has some questions or some thoughts or some concerns. Either way, he is reaching out anonymously cause it's complicated is an understatement. But he does not need this getting back to his bandmates, so anon all the way through the whole thing. If you can hack it; feel free, just keep his secret?]
How do you date someone? What is there you can do to make it special in a place like this?
How do you date someone? What is there you can do to make it special in a place like this?
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what if it was with a friend but not only once but still just friends, not dating, but still care?? is that what you meant about your bandmate?? that's what i've never considered... if it's so casual.....
i care a lot about who i date. i've never thought about sex with just friends. let alone total strangers. isn't it cold to do it the one time with a stranger and that's it?? that part doesn't... hurt?
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But it's empty and unless you can handle guilt you won't be okay with it. No, I'm here trying to make things not casual with my bandmate, I screwed up and slept with him before I did the right thing; I'm pretty sure I'm in love with him anyway and sleeping with him first could have ruined it.
Because friends aren't casual if someone is your friend you have feelings. If you take those feelings and turn them romantic, you can end up destroying each other. Trust me. If you're going to sleep with a friend, be sure you're ready for it to blow up and kill you if it goes bad.
You want to try casual, sleep with someone you don't know, someone you just met, hell get a prostitute but do not try to have casual sex with a friend because you're just fooling yourself and them with that. You've already got strings attached to them.
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no wonder i'd never heard of people having sex with their friends and staying just friends.
i guess that's what i assumed from the start, then
that something like that would explode and ruin the friendship.
but it didn't with your bandmate?? just made things more difficult than they had to be for you to eventually date, you're saying...??
doesn't that mean he wants to date you too if the friendship recovered? or no??
i don't think i have any interest in sleeping with strangers, if i even could
i only want to sleep with people i care about.
but only people i want to date for real, i guess. just friends would be too painful, it sounds like
this stuff is already confusing enough as it normally is
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He could be having this conversation with Uenoyama, except Uenoyama, would not have run so wild in the direction of okaying casual sex; he has never approved of Kaji's playboy lifestyle no matter how much he respects the man.]
Only because we both share the same feelings. If he felt different or I did, that one night of sex, no matter how good, could have blown our friendship and our band apart. Meaning we would have hurt ourselves and our bandmates.
We still might, if he can't forgive me for the things I've done. I won't know until I ask.
Sex complicates everything.
How old are you?
[Definitely getting vibes like he's talking to his younger bandmates here.]
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thanks for explaining. i'd never heard about it or thought about it before. now i know why i guess.
old enough.....
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You know what, you good at keeping secrets by chance?
[Because that old enough tells him more than enough...he's thinking of doing something here.]
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plus you're anonymous, so... shoot.
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