I get that, too. It happens a lot in my line of work, kind of disappointing when people don't notice all of the effort I put in and instead focus on things that are out of my control. I didn't ask to look like this.
But I'm also not ashamed of myself, either. I used to be, a little. I wanted to just fit in with everyone else in school, and look the same as they did. But I think if I did that, I would've lost part of who I am. I like the way I look, now. People still look at me like I'm a piece of meat sometimes, but I've also got a lot of people around me who like me for me. The way I look isn't even a factor to them. So even though I'm still not a fan of being treated like that, that's not all I am to everyone.
I think it's easy for some people to forget that other people are... actually people. Not objects. Sometimes we like being admired... sometimes we just want to be left alone.
But, I mean, you seem to get that. You don't like it when people do it to you, so you try not to do it to them. Sounds like you might be giving yourself way too hard a time.
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But I'm also not ashamed of myself, either. I used to be, a little. I wanted to just fit in with everyone else in school, and look the same as they did. But I think if I did that, I would've lost part of who I am. I like the way I look, now. People still look at me like I'm a piece of meat sometimes, but I've also got a lot of people around me who like me for me. The way I look isn't even a factor to them. So even though I'm still not a fan of being treated like that, that's not all I am to everyone.
I think it's easy for some people to forget that other people are... actually people. Not objects. Sometimes we like being admired... sometimes we just want to be left alone.
But, I mean, you seem to get that. You don't like it when people do it to you, so you try not to do it to them. Sounds like you might be giving yourself way too hard a time.