I can't help it, being insightful has been an important part of managing in society for me. I've spent a lot of time playing whatever role people wanted me to fill, so I've had to learn to read people to know what they want me to be.
But, try thinking about the pressure to find someone, and how that might make the one who was there first question things. I don't think being first or second, or fifth for that matter, makes you more or less significant. What's important is that your partner chooses to spend time with you, even when you know there's nothing pressuring them into it.
The 'second-hand' bullshit pisses me off. It's what lets cheating assholes get away with having affairs, since all the woman involved think they're ruined for anyone else and don't have an option of leaving. Especially with what women over 25 have to put up with in the workplace. I don't think there's any shit like that here, though, so maybe you can work on fighting back against that mindset.
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But, try thinking about the pressure to find someone, and how that might make the one who was there first question things. I don't think being first or second, or fifth for that matter, makes you more or less significant. What's important is that your partner chooses to spend time with you, even when you know there's nothing pressuring them into it.
The 'second-hand' bullshit pisses me off. It's what lets cheating assholes get away with having affairs, since all the woman involved think they're ruined for anyone else and don't have an option of leaving. Especially with what women over 25 have to put up with in the workplace. I don't think there's any shit like that here, though, so maybe you can work on fighting back against that mindset.