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[dereban]

Yeah, I bet you're probably going, "oh, hey, an anonymous post, what are they going to ask THIS TIME" and I want to combat that with yes, I have an inquiry, but I want to at least try to not be boring about it.

And therefore, allow me to give you a scenario: 1) imagine that you're an Iris. 2) you have a SO that you've been dating for a few months at best, but they're not exactly here. 3) you have a crush on a few people because they remind you a little of 2, but neither of them know you have a SO. 4) one of them is your roommate and you have absolutely done things with them.

Now the thing is: I want to tell them the truth, but how do I break it to them...? Or should I even do that to begin with?

If you don't want to answer that, I'll give you guys something more chill: send me your funniest images and I'll judge them on a scale from one to ten.

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[dereban]

Yeah. I've been thinking about saying something, just on and off again but I can never find the right time to...

The quiet moments are just nearly nonexistent and the last couple of months have been hell that it makes it hard for me to focus.

Honestly, if he did show up, I'd do the right thing and tell the truth for all parties involved. It just wouldn't be fair otherwise.

If he were here to the start, I probably wouldn't have this issue, since I would have talked to him about poly and stuff like that and made an agreement on stuff.

[affectueux]

[ hm, he’s from an older time, and while the concept of polyamory is extremely and unpleasantly familiar to him, the actual terminology is unknown. ]

I’m sorry. I think I need to make sure I know what “poly” is before I can say anything further.

[dereban]

Ah, it's basically when you're dating more than one person. Generally after you've spoken to all parties involved.

[affectueux]

[ … ]

Yes, I would imagine that kind of arrangement requires a lot of communication. But do you think it would really be possible?

[dereban]

I personally think so.

There's no reason why it wouldn't. Even more so in a world like this, which practically encourages it.

[affectueux]

[ serge isn’t here to debate with her about the potential pros and cons of polyamory anyway, though he does wonder how someone can accept the concept so easily. ]

You know the people involved much better than I do. It’s too bad that it seems too late to talk about this without anyone’s feelings getting hurt, but I think it’s still important to tell the people involved.

Have you thought about writing a letter?

[dereban]

Yeah.

I've never thought about writing a letter, why?

[affectueux]

I think writing it all down, your own feelings included, may bring you some peace of mind, and make it less daunting to talk about. It does for me, anyway.

You don’t have to give your roommate the letter, but it is a starting point.

[dereban]

I think that might help a lot.

Not even just a letter to my roommate, but for the person I care about, too. Even if he'll never be able to see it.

[affectueux]

Yes! That’s the spirit. I’ve written so many of my thoughts down in the time I’ve been here. There are some people I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to see again, after all, and I feel the need to leave my legacy somehow.

[ but that’s… a different problem, maybe? ]

[dereban]

Yeah, I do a lot of writing myself but I've never exactly thought of writing letters, sent or unsent.

I think it's a good idea, so. . . thank you.

[affectueux]

My father wrote letters to me when I was young, even though we lived together. Perhaps that’s why I put such stock in it.

I hope it helps you. Sent or unsent, indeed.