seven 💕 text. ( anonymous text )

[dereban]

Yeah, I bet you're probably going, "oh, hey, an anonymous post, what are they going to ask THIS TIME" and I want to combat that with yes, I have an inquiry, but I want to at least try to not be boring about it.

And therefore, allow me to give you a scenario: 1) imagine that you're an Iris. 2) you have a SO that you've been dating for a few months at best, but they're not exactly here. 3) you have a crush on a few people because they remind you a little of 2, but neither of them know you have a SO. 4) one of them is your roommate and you have absolutely done things with them.

Now the thing is: I want to tell them the truth, but how do I break it to them...? Or should I even do that to begin with?

If you don't want to answer that, I'll give you guys something more chill: send me your funniest images and I'll judge them on a scale from one to ten.

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text | j.valentine

[torsion]

#2 isn't true anymore because you've "done things" with other people.
You don't break it to them because you're either involved with one of them or you aren't.
It's not that difficult.

[dereban]

So just because I've done things with other people means I can't be involved with a person that isn't here?

[ She's. . . a bit confused by this, actually. ]

[torsion]

I didn't say that.
I'm saying it's the right thing to do. They didn't consent to it and neither did the person here.
You have to sort out your priorities. How would you feel if someone said they were dating you or you were their significant other while messing around with other people?
Weigh it out.

[dereban]

In normal circumstances?

I'd think that they're cheating on me. But in a place like this, I personally feel like it's different. Or am I wrong for thinking that?

[torsion]

There are other ways to make chroma and maybe everyone might think differently, but you've got a rough choice to make.
Unless you're into open dating and know they would be, but they aren't here to speak for themselves.
I think you know the answer.
And talking to the person here shouldn't be difficult if you're honest. You aren't committed to them, right? So they should at least listen and be willing to understand.

text;

[resenting]

Better come clean. You're kidding yourself if you think you can hide things forever. If they find out on their own, how are they ever going to trust you again?

perma-anon;

[dereban]

I was planning to, honestly. I'm just afraid of how they'll react.

I've been keeping it a secret ever since I got here, and as far as I'm aware, only one person knows the truth.

[resenting]

No matter how good somebody thinks they are at keeping secrets, it'll get out eventually. Then their reactions will be the least of your concerns.

I'm not judging you or anything here, this place makes people do things they wouldn't do and that's just how it is.

[dereban]

Maybe. Some secrets are meant to be kept secret, though.

(Not that I'm saying this is one of them.)

But you're right about that much.

[permanon]

[immature]

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permanon

[dereban]

That poor coffee cup didn't deserve this!!

7.8/10 for rip

[immature]

it was either that one or this one
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[dereban]

THAT'S TERRIBLE

Permanon

[restringing]

It's hard, isn't it?
Being here and dating someone back home
I haven't been able to talk to anyone who understands

I don't have a crush on anyone here
But when I talked to someone else about this
They told me that the person I'm dating would want me to survive
It's made things easier, but I think I've still been overly careful

Mmm... I don't know what's right
But I'd try to be honest with everyone as much as you can, little by little
Even if it's hard to talk about
I think they'll understand and appreciate your honesty

[dereban]

It honestly is. I think about the person I'm dating all the time. Even more so now that I got something that he gave to me as a gift.

Yeah, this isn't the first time I've spoken about it. . .
And he's the selfless type, I guess?
Like he would prioritize me and what I wanted over himself. . .

Yet I still worry, I guess.

Not to mention that Iris cycle kind of sucks.

Being honest is. . . hard, though, I guess.

[restringing]

A gift...
I have things from my boyfriend too. Physical and not
So I get it. It's hard not to think about them when you have something important like that

I guess... if the situation was reversed and he was here instead of you
How would you feel?
I've thought about it a lot, and if it was my boyfriend I think I'd be a little jealous... just a little
But I wouldn't be upset with him either
I'd want him to be happy and live here without trying to avoid people for my sake
So I hope he would think the same thing about me

If your boyfriend is the selfless type, I'm sure he'd understand too
But would you feel guilty if he's too forgiving?

Mmm...
Maybe you can casually slip it in a conversation if it comes up
Sitting down and talking seriously about it might be harder

...Sorry
I'm not used to talking this much
I know it's a lot
But it's nice to open up about this without my name attached

[dereban]

Yeah. It was something... I got from him, several months ago.
"A sign of our rekindled love", something cheesy like that. It's a connection, I guess... so I don't forget.
We have matching ones, so it's kind of funny, but also embarrassing.
It's because I care about him still, even now, that I wear it every day.

But, hm...

It's complicated.
I guess I can't say that I wouldn't be jealous, but I can't say that I'd be mad either, given the situation.
I care about him being happy, and more importantly, I know what this world does to people.
It wouldn't be fair to either of us that way, not to mention dangerous.

I guess that's kind of my issue, though. I feel like I shouldn't be forgiven. Even if it's understandable...

Haha, I feel like doing that would make them double take or something. They'd go 'wait, WHAAAAT' and maybe try to run away from me. And I honestly wouldn't be able to stop him.

And no, it's fine. I opened the floor to discussion anyway, so this was exactly what I was looking for.

( text, un: lavieenrose )

[affectueux]

I think it’s quite cruel to everyone involved to hold onto it, but you must already know that if you’re asking the network.

There’s no avoiding it forever, in any case. If your significant other showed up tomorrow, what would you tell them? What would you tell your roommate? You must search within yourself and find the answer that satisfies you.

But honestly speaking, I understand where you’re coming from - the idea that it’s different here. I haven’t done anything yet, but I’m afraid of what I’ll do when the urge becomes too unbearable.

[dereban]

Yeah. I've been thinking about saying something, just on and off again but I can never find the right time to...

The quiet moments are just nearly nonexistent and the last couple of months have been hell that it makes it hard for me to focus.

Honestly, if he did show up, I'd do the right thing and tell the truth for all parties involved. It just wouldn't be fair otherwise.

If he were here to the start, I probably wouldn't have this issue, since I would have talked to him about poly and stuff like that and made an agreement on stuff.

[affectueux]

[ hm, he’s from an older time, and while the concept of polyamory is extremely and unpleasantly familiar to him, the actual terminology is unknown. ]

I’m sorry. I think I need to make sure I know what “poly” is before I can say anything further.

[dereban]

Ah, it's basically when you're dating more than one person. Generally after you've spoken to all parties involved.

anon

[huaisang]

I don't know, can't relate. It must be difficult but if you run out of chroma is that not worse?

anon;

[dereban]

Yeah, it is worse.

[huaisang]

Why not just do it and worry about it later?

[dereban]

Because I'm worrying about it now!