prismatica | text: anonymous

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There's something I'd like to discuss.

Suppose that you were betrothed to another in your own world. That person tells you that they are more than comfortable with you having dalliances as long as they are the sole possessor of your heart, and you accept these terms.

And then you're spirited off to this place without them.

The only times I recall connecting to others on a more intimate level, I was under the influence of the Iris moon, but it is cowardice to say that I shouldn't be blamed for not letting them know this earlier.

Do I even owe an explanation to anyone else here, if I've held up my terms of the agreement to my betrothed?

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[ Oh, this is something that she can somewhat relate to...

Not actually going anonymous for this. ]

I think being honest is the best, as someone who's dealt with something like that.

But if you've already had terms regarding it, as long as you make the other party aware that, 'hey, my SO is good w/ this shit, don't worry' and that they're OK with that sort of arrangement, it shouldn't be an issue. Not telling them is just prone to cause more issues in the long run.

No, you're right.

And besides, even if my betrothed happens to find this arrangement acceptable, should they arrive here?

They have a particularly strong presence that can be a bit much for some people.

And that's exactly why you should tell them.

They say communication is important, after all.

what'd the guilt be like if you weren't upfront? what about if your betrothed came here and they knew everything?

In all honesty, she'd probably find it funny.

then you probably don't need to stress so much on that end, but i think honesty with other moonlacing partners would be good.

... Honestly, this comes across as them being more than a little possessive of you in a way I find disconcerting to say the least?

I mean, marriage and all that, sure, but the idea of not being 'x' close to anyone else... It seems like something where the idea of being away from them at all isn't something they were expecting for.

Deeply and concerningly Lawful, is all...

I understand that such terms are too constraining for some, but I happen to find them acceptable.

I do not expect different from a being so inclined to the forces of Law, anyway.

[Pidonus continues to Not Get sufficiently lawful-minded individuals.]

... Mmm. I guess? I feel like such constraints are still kind of disturbing, but that's your call to make.

Open communication's certainly a better choice than trying to hide your motives.

Just as I suspected, then.

I fear some of my suitors here may fear the prospect of dealing with her, but that's just an inevitability.

Powerful-minded person, then?

And what did you suspect?

Not so much powerful-minded as power itself, really.

But I feared that the more I try to explain things to people, the more my explanations raise further questions.

... Yeah that's scary stuff to deal with if it's "power itself", that to me implies like a god?

So yeah. That'd absolutely spark further questions.

Much as they fancy themselves one, not quite.

And that brings up a lot of other options.

[ Demon lords, archdevils, a fucking dragon...

It's a big fucking dragon. ]

... Which in turn only leads to more questions, because 'not quite' is still really, really strong...

Dragon.

Not an unusually old or powerful one, compared to those of legend, but that's not saying much.

I shalt not meddle in the affairs of dragons, for I art crunchy and good with ketchup.

My point exactly.

Pardon my caution on getting too close, to say the least.

[Keep in mind, Pidonus can face quite a few ranks of dragon easily. She's STILL scared of them.]

as long as the heart is true, then there should not be reason to worry.

do you feel that your eye has strayed far, and that your heart has begun to follow?

On the contrary.

I wish nothing more for their presence here, but fear matters becoming more complicated than I deem necessary.

Do you trust their heart, in that case? Were it not for betrothal, would you still feel this worry in your own?

you know that's a good question
i'm engaged at home and honestly i don't tell people here regularly
i never really considered that i should
but if she were to show up sometime, i'd tell her

my gods.

[ AT LEAST SHE'S DOING SLIGHTLY BETTER THAN THIS GUY? ]

what???

WHAT?

i fucked a married guy here once but told me his husband would've been cool with it
i mean i dont care about being told
but so long as your betrothed wouldnt give a fuck you dont owe anyone anything

You owe nothing to anyone here. If you want to say anything, simply tell people you only want to be friends with benefits.

what hurts more, the truth or the omission?

I've always found that communication is important.

It might not be a bad thing to tell people that you have a betrothed at home who you're committed to, but you don't mind lighter things. It might help keep other people from being hurt in case someone falls for you.

And some people get really fussy about being with someone who already has someone even if both people in the relationship don't care.

No, you're right.

This is going to be extremely awkward with at least a few people.

Well, I guess it really depends on what you and your partners here have?

I mean, if you keep ending up with the same people or are deliberately sticking with the same people even during Iris then it might be something you want to mention. If only so it's clear that there's no potential romance there at all.

If it's someone you end up with because it's Iris and they're hot and you barely know them you probably don't have to worry about saying anything.

It's good you've talked about it
Most people don't
That's important

Um... I think it's fine
Since you're doing what you promised
You can tell people if they ask
Or if you feel comfortable with it
Maybe

if youve been hooking up with people or whatever under the influence of the moons, wouldnt call that cowardice. doubt everyone wants to talk about the nitty gritty circumstances in their worlds for that kind of thing.

[Rey sure as hell doesn't want to even think about it, influence or not.]

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