TEXT; UN: LOCALBIGSIS

[thinkingpositive]

I know this sounds like an odd question but I can't think of any better way to come up with an answer.

Say that you've just basically returned from the dead. Not a zombie or anything but well kind of but not really!

What should you give your friends as an apology gift? Flowers? Something more extravagant?

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un: whitemagick

[healingraen]

There's a lot to unpack here but let me just start with this: Is the apology gift because you died?

[thinkingpositive]

Mostly, yes.

I had that I ended up leaving everyone behind because I was too distracted.

They probably experienced so much grief...

[healingraen]

[She doesn't know this person, but reading her response still strikes a chord of sorrow, both as a person with a damned heart and as a healer who's seen her share of fallen comrades.]

That's very kind of you to think of how they'd feel... but you can't blame yourself for these things. No one is perfect, and no one has control over something like that, not even those of us gifted with healing magicks.

I'd simply be glad of the chance to see you again were I in their shoes. If they're here with you perhaps the gift of your time would be a better gesture?

[thinkingpositive]

My time, of course.

I'd be happy to spend all of my time with them!

I just hope they don't secretly resent me deep down, you know?

[healingraen]

I think I understand. I can't claim to know for certain, obviously, I can only speak from my own personal experiences. I've encountered... quite a few similar losses, and I often blame myself, though I know that I shouldn't. Practice what you preach, and all that.

It may be worth speaking with them about when you're ready. I hope that it works out for you, either way.

[thinkingpositive]

Thank you.

It's at least comforting to know I'm not the only one going through this, in an odd way?

Now that I type it, it sounds kind of morbid! Sorry!

[healingraen]

There's nothing to apologize for. Believe me, I'm used to "morbid". I realize that we're strangers but should you find you have need of someone to talk to about this or similar things, if I can help you're welcome to call on me personally.

And it makes sense! I think everyone wants to feel like they're understood.