Jɪɴ Zɪxᴜᴀɴ, Lᴀɴʟɪɴɢ Pᴇᴀᴄᴏᴄᴋ (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
amidstsnow) wrote in ![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png)
prismatica2020-02-16 05:29 pm
amidstsnow) wrote in prismatica2020-02-16 05:29 pm
video | un:jinzixun
[look at this finely dressed deer in the headlights. this is the face of a man who's clearly trying hard at something. and while he's still new to much of the technology here, that isn't the problem. (even if the typo in his own name might suggest otherwise.)
he looks like he might turn this off after all, and maybe he's regretting that he didn't go with the texted word, but then he takes a breath and pushes forward.]
I would like to address those out there who are fathers. Or anyone who might have experience with raising a child. Sons, especially.
[a long pause...a man with as much pride as jin zixuan surely finds it hard to ask for help. but he reminds himself of his sole reason, and suddenly it all rushes out.]
How does one...form bonds with them? What activities do they enjoy? What should you talk about? Do you try to be their friend?
How do you inquire about their [his expression twists.] chroma?
Any advice would be appreciated.
[please make him father of the year, it would mean so much.]
he looks like he might turn this off after all, and maybe he's regretting that he didn't go with the texted word, but then he takes a breath and pushes forward.]
I would like to address those out there who are fathers. Or anyone who might have experience with raising a child. Sons, especially.
[a long pause...a man with as much pride as jin zixuan surely finds it hard to ask for help. but he reminds himself of his sole reason, and suddenly it all rushes out.]
How does one...form bonds with them? What activities do they enjoy? What should you talk about? Do you try to be their friend?
How do you inquire about their [his expression twists.] chroma?
Any advice would be appreciated.
[please make him father of the year, it would mean so much.]
no subject
Patience, then.
[or in this case, more patience.]
no subject
Children are people. Demanding any person to open up to you is likely to result in the opposite, and the best way to learn about a person's interests is to ask them.
As for friendship with one's children... One would certainly like to get along with them, but at times one may need to make decisions that they will dislike for their own good. It would not do to allow a child to eat nothing but dessert, even if that is what they say they want, no?
no subject
I haven't been there for him. How can I...what right do I have?
[he can already hear these questions being tossed at him and he has no answers. because i said so? that's how jin zixuan grew up, but his circumstances were also very different.]
Perhaps I should continue leaving that up to his uncles for now.
no subject
[It might be harsh, but then, Zixuan is correct in predicting those questions. He is an outsider, no matter what his blood might be.]
Getting to know your child is enough of a first step to focus on without bringing matters of discipline into it.