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[circumitus]

Important question: How do you tell if someone's your friend?

Is it something that people just... know or do they have a conversation about it?

[How does friendship work and more importantly, can you eat it?]

The whole concept of friendship always seemed strange, honestly. People just decide "Hey, this person isn't a complete piece of shit"? Weird. [Well, now she might just be projecting onto herself.

[So, wait. Does this mean that she has friends? Does anyone have friends? How annoying.]

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text | username: inaban

[dereban]

[Oh, this is definitely an awkward conversation to have over the network. She doesn't mind answering this, but she'll default to text since it's easier to talk about this without showing her emotions too much over audio or video.]

For most people, I believe it's generally intrinsic?

It's all about feelings, mostly. "Do I like this person?" "Do they like me back?" "Are we having fun together?" "Do I trust them?" There's a long laundry list and I could go on and on, but the point is that, well... it's a 'bond', really.

Sure, some people do have a conversation about it. You can ask, if you do have positive feelings towards the above if they want to be friends with you and they can answer those feelings with some of their own.

But this isn't always the case. Sometimes you just end up hanging around people and eventually just... wind up becoming friends, without even asking that vital question.

[circumitus]

[To be fair, Rey is pretty emotionally constipated (obvious, given the subject matter of her question), so text works for her as well.]

so youre saying it changes on a case by case basis?

great never been any good picking up on that shit like a normal person

[In short SHE DOOMED but at least she's trying.]

[dereban]

That's right.

But if you can't like... 'pick up on it' then you might want to just default to asking.

[circumitus]

sounds awkward tho

but probably better than the effort of making the wrong assumptions about someone

[dereban]

Starting off friendship is always going to be a little awkward at first? That's only natural.

[circumitus]

if by natural you mean annoying
then sure

but kind of get what your saying

[dereban]

Sometimes it's both.

Glad to hear it, though!

[circumitus]

pretty sure people are going to have varying levels of definitions for the same thing
but appreciate taking the time out of your day for bullshit like this anyway