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I've done a lot of things in my life but never that; ANONYMOUS TEXT

[He has some questions or some thoughts or some concerns. Either way, he is reaching out anonymously cause it's complicated is an understatement. But he does not need this getting back to his bandmates, so anon all the way through the whole thing. If you can hack it; feel free, just keep his secret?]

How do you date someone? What is there you can do to make it special in a place like this?

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what do you mean "how??"

do things you think they'll like, hopefully you'll be right..... aggravating when you get it wrong, but when you get it right it's really nice to see them smile... like giving them little things or something, not anything grand or expensive, i don't know. sometimes it works for me. like just to show you thought of them.

I've already done everything wrong.
I'm trying to do it all right this time. Little things, like gifts, would coffee or something work?

maybe
don't spill it or do something dumb though
i pissed my ex-girlfriend off like that once even though i meant well. execution matters.
otherwise i think the thought counts, right? like little gifts, if you see something pretty and it makes you think of them cuz they're pretty or something you know? or take them to your favorite spot in the city....? or i guess just get them something they said they like, maybe... can't go wrong that way.....

what do they like, i guess?? do you know this person well well? have you been on dates before?

I'm not a fumbling schoolboy, I think I can manage not to spill it.
Plus, most adults don't get too upset about an accident like something spilling.
If the thought counts even if it spills, the thought is still there.
Well, he is pretty, more handsome than that but his hair is beautiful.
You know, that's not a bad idea, I got enough chroma to get him something nice.

We've been friends and bandmates for two years and I've slept with him, I'd say I know him as well as you can anyone.

ok well im just speaking from my own experience..... just saying. be extra graceful or something.

doesnt even have to be something nice. if he likes nice stuff then sure. just get him something that made you think of him, or like... make an experience together, y'know what i mean? go somewhere cool and pretty, do something unusual, adventurous, that kind of thing...

but you guys so are close and yet you're not a couple....? even though you slept together?? as just friends??? that's a thing????

Right, don't trip over my own feet.

Doesn't everyone like nice stuff? No one wants to get a ratty teeshirt as a present. You know, these aren't so bad. He might like that.

Anyone can sleep with anyone, I've slept with more people than I can count on both my hands. Sex is just sex, I don't even always ask their name, it's not important.

It's when it happens with someone your close to that it means more; that's why I'm here now.

"sex is just sex??" how can you not ask their name? it's not important? really.....? are you a professional.......?? is that why? i don't know if i can ask that question......

so if it's better with someone you're close to, even if they're just a friend and you don't really want to date them, just physical but still close friends, or with your girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever, then why sleep with anyone else...?? if that's so much more meaningful??

Because casual sex is just that casual. You don't get anything but satisfaction out of it but at least you won't be pent up. Close enough once upon a time; I've slept with people for things other than money in the past. Not anymore. But that isn't why, I've had sex just to have sex, first day here I slept with the first woman I met.

A couple of days later a guy. It felt good and got me chroma.

Don't sleep with a friend if you don't want to date them. Close friends should be given enough respect to be more than a one-off so your dick doesn't hurt.

Because some of us are damaged enough to not care. Then one day, you become me, trying to figure out how to date someone properly because they make you care.

the first day, the first woman you met...? and a guy??

what if it was with a friend but not only once but still just friends, not dating, but still care?? is that what you meant about your bandmate?? that's what i've never considered... if it's so casual.....

i care a lot about who i date. i've never thought about sex with just friends. let alone total strangers. isn't it cold to do it the one time with a stranger and that's it?? that part doesn't... hurt?

More than that in the month that followed; listen, don't be me. Sure, it's easy, it gives chroma and satisfies physical needs.

But it's empty and unless you can handle guilt you won't be okay with it. No, I'm here trying to make things not casual with my bandmate, I screwed up and slept with him before I did the right thing; I'm pretty sure I'm in love with him anyway and sleeping with him first could have ruined it.

Because friends aren't casual if someone is your friend you have feelings. If you take those feelings and turn them romantic, you can end up destroying each other. Trust me. If you're going to sleep with a friend, be sure you're ready for it to blow up and kill you if it goes bad.

You want to try casual, sleep with someone you don't know, someone you just met, hell get a prostitute but do not try to have casual sex with a friend because you're just fooling yourself and them with that. You've already got strings attached to them.

i see.......

no wonder i'd never heard of people having sex with their friends and staying just friends.
i guess that's what i assumed from the start, then
that something like that would explode and ruin the friendship.
but it didn't with your bandmate?? just made things more difficult than they had to be for you to eventually date, you're saying...??
doesn't that mean he wants to date you too if the friendship recovered? or no??

i don't think i have any interest in sleeping with strangers, if i even could
i only want to sleep with people i care about.
but only people i want to date for real, i guess. just friends would be too painful, it sounds like
this stuff is already confusing enough as it normally is

Kaji has a feeling here; something is going on. This has gone from him seeking romantic advice to him, offering advice, and it seems all centered on sex...

He could be having this conversation with Uenoyama, except Uenoyama, would not have run so wild in the direction of okaying casual sex; he has never approved of Kaji's playboy lifestyle no matter how much he respects the man.]

Only because we both share the same feelings. If he felt different or I did, that one night of sex, no matter how good, could have blown our friendship and our band apart. Meaning we would have hurt ourselves and our bandmates.

We still might, if he can't forgive me for the things I've done. I won't know until I ask.

Sex complicates everything.

How old are you?

[Definitely getting vibes like he's talking to his younger bandmates here.]

that makes sense. i wouldnt want that.
thanks for explaining. i'd never heard about it or thought about it before. now i know why i guess.

old enough.....

No you don't, trust me.
You know what, you good at keeping secrets by chance?

[Because that old enough tells him more than enough...he's thinking of doing something here.]

yeah? no reason to tell anyone anything
plus you're anonymous, so... shoot.

[He moves this conversation elsewhere.]

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