un, lucifer

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[He should try to post this as anon, but he doesn't know how, and really, he just wants answers at this point.]

How do you know you love someone?

I have done a lot of research, and every answer I seem to find points me to a different place.

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text; un: otoproxy

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You get different answers because it depends on how you’re looking at it.

chemically and medically, love is the product of neurotransmitter activity in the brain. this activity produces effects in your body, like warmth, belonging, and happiness. the nervousness you might experience when you’re in love, like “butterflies in your stomach” is a result of stimulation of the vagus nerve, or cranial nerve x.

all of that explains how and why, but not what to do. knowing is more of just how you feel. do you think you might be in love with someone, or do you want to be?

[ because why else would someone ask this question, really. ]

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I did not know there was more than one way to look at it.

I have never experienced 'butterflies in my stomach', but everything else seems to be the case for me.

I think I might be in love with my best friend.

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not everyone does. it’s more of a nervous “what should I say or do” feeling.

your best friend? that’s a good start, you’re already close. what is it that you love about this person?

[ talking it out might help work through the emotions. ]

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I have only felt that way twice.

His smile, his laugh, his pouts, everything he makes for me and does for me, his wings are really cute too.

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So I think you have your answer. Right? What would you say if I said those things to you about someone I cared about?

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I would say you care deeply for them.

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Right, exactly. I won’t tell you what to do, but maybe you should tell that person?

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How can I bring it up?

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You could say that you two get along really well, and that no matter what you want to stay friends but you have something important to share.

Or you could say exactly what you said here- “how do you know you’re in love?”

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If I ask him that he will probably think something weird.

I shall try the first option.