un, lucifer

[avert]

[He should try to post this as anon, but he doesn't know how, and really, he just wants answers at this point.]

How do you know you love someone?

I have done a lot of research, and every answer I seem to find points me to a different place.

Comments

( text, un: lavieenrose )

[affectueux]

What a lovely question from such a strange username.

It’s something I’ve struggled with myself for a long time. What does it mean to love someone? What are the signs? I think people tend to approach it from the perspective of a doctor trying to diagnose it within themselves, but the reality is love is much more complicated than that.

And yet, quite simple, too. Love is warmth.

[avert]

Strange? How?

Warmth you say. What kind of warmth are you speaking of?

[affectueux]

Well, in my world, Lucifer is not the sort of name one would claim for themselves!

As for warmth, I suppose I would best describe it as the warmth of springtime, within your very soul.

text | un: springtime

[hopticulture]

It's probably different for everyone, but I know for me you know you love someone when it feels like everything seems empty without that person.

Like, you can't imagine your life without them.

[avert]

I did spend a lot of time without them, and it felt really empty. Living without them by my side was not the same.

But that is a feeling I have had since their creation, would that mean I have loved them for a long time?

[hopticulture]

[the first part sounds normal and a lot like love, but that second part...]

You, uh, loved them since they were a baby?
I mean that does sound like a long time but I don't think I follow...

text; un: otoproxy

[ends]

You get different answers because it depends on how you’re looking at it.

chemically and medically, love is the product of neurotransmitter activity in the brain. this activity produces effects in your body, like warmth, belonging, and happiness. the nervousness you might experience when you’re in love, like “butterflies in your stomach” is a result of stimulation of the vagus nerve, or cranial nerve x.

all of that explains how and why, but not what to do. knowing is more of just how you feel. do you think you might be in love with someone, or do you want to be?

[ because why else would someone ask this question, really. ]

[avert]

I did not know there was more than one way to look at it.

I have never experienced 'butterflies in my stomach', but everything else seems to be the case for me.

I think I might be in love with my best friend.

[ends]

not everyone does. it’s more of a nervous “what should I say or do” feeling.

your best friend? that’s a good start, you’re already close. what is it that you love about this person?

[ talking it out might help work through the emotions. ]

text; un: laurea

[wearingguess]

If you care about them, want them to be happy, and want to be together with them, then you love them.

[avert]

Is it really that simple?

[wearingguess]

It is. Why should it have to be complicated?

un: charleshenri

[painalty]

[As someone who loved in his past life and learned to love again...]

I asked myself a few questions.

1. Do I want to spend the rest of my life with this person?
2. Would I willingly sacrifice everything for this person?
3. Am I always happy and secure whenever I am with them?

But in the end, to love someone is also a decision. It isn't just about feelings. It is about willing to make the decision to wholly accept them for who they are.

[avert]

I think all my answers to those questions will always be "yes."

So to love someone I have to decide to do so?

[painalty]

Yes. Make that choice, and tell that person you love them.

Text UN: paishoandtea

[truehumili_tea]

It would depend on the type of love that you are speaking of. But generally is when you find yourself willing to do anything to ensure that person lives the best possible life they can, no matter how painful it may be.

[avert]

Love can be painful?

[He wasn't aware of that fact.]

text; un: kei5

[loudmouths]

[ boy, have you caught the attention of the wrong person. ]

LOVE IS THE BEST! it's not always easy to realize when you're in love, but once you do, it makes it hard to focus on anything else!

when you love someone, your heart flutters when they set their eyes upon you! when you love someone, hearing their voice is like a golden panacea that cures any negativity in your soul! when you love someone, just a mere brush of fingertips is electrifying in such a way that every fibre of your being can't help but become magnetized to your lover!

it's truly the best feeling in the world!!

[ ... none of that was particularly helpful, though. ]

[avert]

[It might be nothing, but it helps!]

Hard to focus on anything but your loved one? I think I understand.

If it's the best feeling in the world, why is it so hard to understand?

un, angel

[schmisse]

I've only been in love with one person... so my answer is probably way too specific.

But I wake up and he's the first in my thoughts, and the decisions I make tend to consider his preferences, too. And when I'm with him, I'm just so excited and so happy. Even with whatever problems I end up facing, the feeling is different because there's someone I know who'll be there for me, and someone I can turn to. I feel a lot lighter with them around.

I think it would be different for each person, so doing research may not be of much help. I think it's something you have to ask yourself about.

[avert]

I have been asking myself for a while, but I never came up to a conclusive answer.

Your response is specific, but it reflects my feelings somewhat. So thank you for your input.

text; un: daddy

[varnish]

[He considers posting this anonymously... but in the end he decides he won’t get as much gratification out of it. That and Lucifer would find him out anyway, oblivious as he can be.]

Faa-san didn’t create us to be capable of such a frivolous thing, Supreme Primarch. There’s really no need to ask.

[avert]

Luclius did not create us for this reason, but I do have feelings I cannot put a name to, though everyone has been helping me figure it out.

Have you never felt love for someone, Belial?

text; un: no

[terribletwos]

i guess if they're the most important thing in the world to you. and the one thing you couldn't stand to lose.

[ That's how he's always understood it anyway. ]

[avert]

I lost him once, and it was... Very sad. The saddest I have ever felt.

I am not sure he is the most important thing in the world to me though, as the world is vast.