I don't mind helping. If anything, it makes me feel better to know there are more people with the same problems I've had.
Maybe you should think about if you really don't want to ask her to share, or if you're just so used to the idea of someone being there first meaning you've lost your chance that you can't imagine anything else. It sounds like you're telling yourself it's already too late, and getting so caught up in the consequences of putting your hopes on this one person that it's hard to shift to thinking there's still a chance.
Also, for what it's worth, I think the idea that a woman should only be known to love one man is bullshit. That kind of thing is how women get stuck in abusive relationships, because they think that if they leave, they'll spend the rest of their lives alone because they're like someone else's hand-me-downs.
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Maybe you should think about if you really don't want to ask her to share, or if you're just so used to the idea of someone being there first meaning you've lost your chance that you can't imagine anything else. It sounds like you're telling yourself it's already too late, and getting so caught up in the consequences of putting your hopes on this one person that it's hard to shift to thinking there's still a chance.
Also, for what it's worth, I think the idea that a woman should only be known to love one man is bullshit. That kind of thing is how women get stuck in abusive relationships, because they think that if they leave, they'll spend the rest of their lives alone because they're like someone else's hand-me-downs.