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Goro Akechi ([personal profile] foolishjustice) wrote in [community profile] prismatica2019-08-21 12:30 am

Text - Anonymous

I have a question, that...you'll probably understand my reasons for posting anonymously once you finish reading.

The local culture is very open and laid back about sexual interest. It's different as hell from my own home, where men who show sexual attraction are viewed as disgusting perverts and assumed to be dangerous, while people don't even fucking think about women having an interest in sex beyond wanting to have children. Some of the posts I've seen here would get everyone involved labeled sexual deviants for the shit they talk about in the open.

My question is, how do people adapt to it? I'm here doing my damn best to keep my mind out of the gutter because I've been taught thinking about anyone you don't want to date like that is disrespectful as hell and fucking creepy, but then I turn around and see people openly asking for hookups or rating each other's asses, and instead of people calling that shit skeevy, they either go along with it or treat it like a funny joke.

I know it's not prudishness, believe-you-fucking-me, my life would be easier if I was just naturally shy or reserved or whatever. It's an extreme form of culture shock, and I wish I didn't end up feeling like a dick constantly over the kinds of mental images I get from both the way people act in public around here and some of the things the prismals hand out as fucking party favors.
betheirstrength: except not really (being tactical scan means im the leader!)

[personal profile] betheirstrength 2019-08-26 10:02 pm (UTC)(link)
That makes sense. It is nice to know you share a perspective with someone, especially if it's a thing that makes you feel isolated or abnormal.

I feel like you know me too well already and you don't even know who I am! Stop that! It... absolutely does feel like that. Getting there first is winning, being second means you're just a fill-in. I was so fixated on him for so long, I didn't want to give up the hope or I'd feel like I wasted so much. Not that I don't value his friendship, of course! Just, you know, how limited options seem, back home.

That whole "purity" thing. It's definitely like relating girls to hand-me-downs. Ugh, that's so gross! I hate it so much! But I play right into it! I have my whole life!
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[personal profile] betheirstrength 2019-08-27 02:08 am (UTC)(link)
"Playing whatever role people wanted me to fill" huh. You could be the same as me, then.

[A boy idol? Possibly, he hasn't said anything to contradict.]

There's a lot to think about in general. I should... try to re-evaluate what I think their perspective might be, though. I guess I don't know what anyone else is thinking...

[She doesn't actually know what's going through Chie and Souji's heads.]

Sounds like you've had some direct experience with these things.

It would be nice... to not be so caught up in the idea of purity. To not feel like I have to just keep myself available for anyone in the world by denying myself. I just... always thought I'd have to be sneaky about it. You know?
betheirstrength: except not really (being tactical scan means im the leader!)

[personal profile] betheirstrength 2019-08-27 05:53 am (UTC)(link)
That explains why you feel so strongly about this.

Well, as a girl, and as a girl who has dealt with creeps, I don't think just having a sex drive makes you one. It's like... you don't think it's okay to just say and do whatever, you wouldn't get mad if she were to turn you down, right?

I've... met people who have managed to compliment my looks and tell me they're attracted to me without making me uncomfortable. It makes me feel really good, actually. It's all in how you say it.
betheirstrength: (maybe they are all the real rise)

[personal profile] betheirstrength 2019-08-27 08:20 am (UTC)(link)
See, there you go!

I know how frustrating that can be, though. Doing your best to drop hints and get someone's attention, and it just... doesn't work. It hurts. I'm sorry you went through that.

Well if I ever find you around I'll give you a good ol' nonthreatening approach ok? Cause you sound pretty attractive to me, giving all this good advice. I can totally be tactful, and you deserve that.
betheirstrength: (you're so funny senpai)

[personal profile] betheirstrength 2019-08-27 08:36 am (UTC)(link)
I suppose not, but never say never! I might find you out.

And then watch out for compliments!

Seriously, though, thank you. I don't know if this will apply to me, but it helps to know someone who feels the same, also sees some things differently.