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[foolishjustice]

I have a question, that...you'll probably understand my reasons for posting anonymously once you finish reading.

The local culture is very open and laid back about sexual interest. It's different as hell from my own home, where men who show sexual attraction are viewed as disgusting perverts and assumed to be dangerous, while people don't even fucking think about women having an interest in sex beyond wanting to have children. Some of the posts I've seen here would get everyone involved labeled sexual deviants for the shit they talk about in the open.

My question is, how do people adapt to it? I'm here doing my damn best to keep my mind out of the gutter because I've been taught thinking about anyone you don't want to date like that is disrespectful as hell and fucking creepy, but then I turn around and see people openly asking for hookups or rating each other's asses, and instead of people calling that shit skeevy, they either go along with it or treat it like a funny joke.

I know it's not prudishness, believe-you-fucking-me, my life would be easier if I was just naturally shy or reserved or whatever. It's an extreme form of culture shock, and I wish I didn't end up feeling like a dick constantly over the kinds of mental images I get from both the way people act in public around here and some of the things the prismals hand out as fucking party favors.

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[hagrides]

As a constant traveler, culture shock is no longer much of an issue for me, though it did take some time to get used to the overwhelmingly human population here.

[Hardly any bugs at all.]

Often, there's nothing that can really be done except to wait. Time has a way of helping adjust to even the most extreme situations.

[foolishjustice]

Great. Any idea how to at least avoid uninstalling the communications apps and becoming a fucking shut-in until I get used to sex shit being everywhere?

I see people I know talking about it, and end up feeling like a creep who shouldn't be anywhere fucking near them because my mind went to the gutter. Except sometimes when my damn moon's up, but then I feel like shit later for the things I thought about them without making myself stop.

[hagrides]

You don't have to check the network. And those you speak to frequently in person should be willing to accommodate your comfort levels.

[foolishjustice]

Except there's a lot of shit on here that I actually want to know, or that I can help out with. Living completely without social media would mean I'd be blindsided by things everyone else knew about for weeks.

Not to mention, there's shit like an otherwise innocent festival being held in the red light district, of all places. I was hoping I'd end up being less isolated here, not more.

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[vielerfolg]

maybe you're over-thinking it? you can't change people if they're a certain way, but no one's asking you to engage with all that either. I've had no problem avoiding anything I don't want to engage with here.

[hagrides]

In that case, I can only recommend not reading the comments to posts such as the rating of posteriors. There is not much else to be done about it when you have already identified the problem as culture shock where no one is at fault.

I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors.

[foolishjustice]

I don't want to make the people here change, they seem to be honestly enjoying themselves and it's not really hurting anyone. The problem is me. I can't keep my own damn mind out of the gutter, and then I get pissed off at myself over it.

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[wearingguess]

Is there not anyone here you want to date?

[foolishjustice]

I'm in multiple relationships, that's not the problem.

The problem is, there are people I find attractive that I don't want to date.

...Well, okay, it's not completely not the problem. I do still worry about people judging me for fucking people I haven't been in an extended relationship with.

ALSO ANONYMOUS

[highsteaks]

No I get it too it's really weird and I feel super awkward sometimes???

It reminds me of when me and my friends got accidentally drunk and we played this party game and my best friend and this really cute girl we hung out with were draping themselves on the boy we all liked and I was just hanging back like an awkward weirdo.

[wearingguess]

So the issue is that there are people you enjoy thinking about even though you wouldn't date them, and also that by some standards you have not been dating your date partners long enough for it to be all right that you are also having sex.
Is that right?

[foolishjustice]

Part of my motivation to never fucking touch alcohol, honestly.

With how hard I have to fight to keep my mind clean, who knows what kind of filthy shit I'd say or do while drunk. I don't think I'd ever be able to show my face in public again.

[foolishjustice]

Pretty much. It's making things awkward as hell for me, considering how shameless some people here are. Including some of the people I consider hot.

Hell, even one of the people I'm with has no damn shame.

[highsteaks]

Yeah that's why I'm not drinking here either someone has to keep these clowns from ripping their shirts off and banging on the ground with everyone watching when it's not the moon.

Like sometimes u can't help what happens on ur moon but u can help what happens when ur not a wereanimal.

[wearingguess]

Then it really seems as though your fear of being judged is groundless.
If anything, doesn't it sound more like you are the one judging?

[vielerfolg]

you seem to know what's bothering you, so what do you want to do about it?

[foolishjustice]

I still try to behave when my moon is up, but it does make it easier to forget shit like 'nobody likes a pervert'.

Sure as hell doesn't change how I feel about it later, though. Unless the only people I was hitting on were obviously into it, anyway.

[highsteaks]

I guess I'm lucky I'm Sanguis we get just as hungry and fighty as we get horny and I can usually just eat a lot and maybe pick some fights with some punk prismals and then creep back home to screw my boyfriend silly.

I guess maybe it helps that nobody would want me anyway except for my boyfriend who loves everybody and my other friend who liked me back somehow when I kissed her.

[foolishjustice]

I know this is just me being fucked up. But it's not easy to put aside growing up seeing people who say the kinds of things you think about being portrayed as assholes who deserve to be hit.

It doesn't help that my father really is a creepy asshole, but I at least hope nobody else has experience in dealing with fear of anything that makes them similar to an asshole parent.

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[freshtilapia]

While I could tell you to just lighten up, I think maybe you could use some time relaxing somewhere to... you know... acclimate yourself? But also, maybe a lot of people here are just having an easier time getting used to this place.

I got in a lot of trouble for being promiscuous in my world. So coming to this world, I was surprised they were encouraging about it. But I’m still keeping everything behind closed doors.

And for the record, Level 3 isn’t that filthy.

[foolishjustice]

I'm Cordis, we end up craving Chroma near fucking constantly, and I have an even harder time than usual keeping my mind off of shit I'd like to do with people. Plus sometimes I end up feeling like just doing whatever I fucking want.

We also get those damn pheromones, so even though I'm pretty sure most people would only be interested in the fake me I wear in public, I have to worry about them forgetting their standards because I just smell that nice.

[highsteaks]

Oh jeez that sucks I'm sorry.

[foolishjustice]

I've been to some areas of Level 3 that were fine, but a festival in a fucking red light district? The only way I could enjoy it was by doing my damn best to tune out the scenery.

What do you mean by relaxing to acclimate myself, though? You mean something like trying to relax somewhere I'd get shit for even thinking of going back home?

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[sympathyforadevil]

Maybe I'm just weird because I was always taught that sex is just... sex. It's fun, it's a great way to blow off steam or pass time with a friend or whatever. As long as everybody's on board with what's going down and you're not actually causing anyone lasting harm, then it's not like it matters too much.

You were taught differently and that's probably not a bad thing. You do you, find someone who's willing to stick to what you're comfortable with. If they're not willing to respect your boundaries, they're not worth your time.

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[ringlette]

It was not too difficult for me to adapt, due to my belief that love is universal and it takes so many forms which I would wholly embrace. In that respect, I am glad that I landed in such a world where people have enough freedom to express their own sexuality however they please.

There is also free agency to never interact with any of those elements, too. You are not forced to feed yourself Chroma beyond hand holding. I understand the culture shock you are going through, but I do hope it's not going to be detrimental for your emotional stability.