⏪ text | un: fantasma | DEAR ABBA part the second

[teaserving]

hey
so it looks like you guys are asking a million crazy questions again

well guess what here i come the foundation of wisdom leone abbacchio
ask your questions anonymously or whatever
i'll answer
since all of you are desperately asking for advice all the time!

ps: did you know your moonblessing can swap
just found out
fucking nuts

Comments

anonymous;

[regelkonform]

I have a scenario:

Let’s say you live with someone that you’re intimate with on a fairly regular basis.
You are not in a relationship and there is an agreement without expectation of exclusivity.
Without a falling out or any issues, deep intimacy stops but general intimacy continues.

What would be your take away from that?

[teaserving]

the drama is so fucking powerful this time
amazing

ok so let's try to get some clarifications here
general intimacy: sex?
deep intimacy: how do you define this?
also: how does it make you feel and what are you hoping to achieve?

[regelkonform]

[ GOD ABBACCHIO SEX IS GENERAL INTIMACY FOR YOU?? ]

Drama? Ah, no, let’s call this a hypothetical?
I would consider sex to be included in deeper intimacy. General being more like small gestures such as hugs, kisses or general cuddling.
I’m not sure what I’m trying to achieve save from confusion and making a fool of myself.

[teaserving]

[listen deep intimacy to him is like DATING AND SHIT!!]

sure
hypothetical drama

anyway
what are you worried about exactly that you think you could make a fool of yourself
do you just want to stay friends or do you hope for more
that kind of thing

[regelkonform]

More like I’m concerned that I might be looking too much into it. I don’t want to ask and make it seem like that’s all I care about, because it’s certainly not.

We’ve been friends for decades, we’ve both agreed previously that we're just friends and have no plans to change that.

[teaserving]

look
things can change with friends no matter how long you've known each other
so if you're worried just be honest
otherwise you're gonna think about it until you just know
and the only way you'll know is by asking

[regelkonform]

Decades was an exaggeration.
If I wanted to ask, is there a delicate way to do so?
I’ve never been particularly good with this sort of thing.

[teaserving]

i guess it depends on the person you're trying to clarify with
but i guess just tell them you want to clear the air and make sure you're not getting confused or mixed signals or anything like that
also: don't ask during their moon cycle
i think it'll help make sure you get an honest answer

[regelkonform]

Believe me, there's absolutely no way I would try to talk to him about this during Sanguis. He's usually very relaxed, but that time of the month is more than a little questionable.

He hung up on me one time and before arriving here he'd never done anything like that...

[teaserving]

yeah i can relate
i kinda burned down a building here during sanguis
so like
yeah
i get it

[regelkonform]

You burned down a building...?

[teaserving]

yeah but no one was hurt
and really there was no big loss

[regelkonform]

It's a relief to hear that no one was hurt at least.
I'm not sure how burning down a building wouldn't be considered a loss.
There's damages to consider.
Rebuilding.
Replacing the items from the interior.
Although, I suppose insurance might cover that since it was an accident.

[ Germany, he never said it was an accident. ]

[teaserving]

you ever been to the spaghetti shack

[regelkonform]

Spaghetti shack?
I haven't, but if the name is anything to go by I can think of someone that would likely protest if I had.

[teaserving]

well it was a garbage restaurant that'd make any italian wanna fucking kill themselves
good riddance
the only regret was my boyfriend had to pick me up from jail

[regelkonform]

That's a little extreme, isn't it?!

[teaserving]

no
if anything i did us all a favor

[regelkonform]

Where exactly are you from in Italy?

[teaserving]

napoli

[regelkonform]

Oh, I think I understand now.
That explains a lot.