⏪ text | un: fantasma | DEAR ABBA part the second

[teaserving]

hey
so it looks like you guys are asking a million crazy questions again

well guess what here i come the foundation of wisdom leone abbacchio
ask your questions anonymously or whatever
i'll answer
since all of you are desperately asking for advice all the time!

ps: did you know your moonblessing can swap
just found out
fucking nuts

Comments

[teaserving]

1. huh that's a tough one.
ok let's say theoretically that they do this
i'd probably ask what's allowed and what isn't
is handholding on or off the table etc
if it's physical contact they can't deal with then there's other stuff you can do
dating
maybe like holding the same ribbon together. not really holding hands but close to it.

2. i can actually answer this with personal experience
there's someone i'm seeing right now who's from the same planet as me, but from a different time period
we've never met until now
and we probably will never meet
but we're giving it a shot anyway.
i want to some happy memories
even if it's not forever

[specialist_snowflake]

Regarding the first question, I should clarify that the other person is primarily the one who desires intimate physical contact. As I have no desire to engage in a one-sided relationship, I am currently attempting to change my feelings to a more comfortable neutrality. The physicality makes such attempts exceedingly difficult.

As for the second, I am pleased to hear that you've found success. Do you believe it will be worth the inevitable heartbreak of separation? Forgive the callous nature of the question, but I am asking in earnest rather than making a personal accusation.

[teaserving]

fair enough it's a good clarification
are you hoping to move onto something physical? i assume there's a reason you're reluctant
unless it's that this person has feelings for you and you don't?

no you're fine
i thought about that
but i've suffered heartbreak before
and the way i looked at it was more like
i have this second chance to make some good memories for once. i'll hate being separated, especially if it gets deeper, but i'd rather have the experience than wonder and yearn.
that's not for everyone and i get that but separation is way easier to deal with than other things that could go wrong.

[specialist_snowflake]

While I confess that the physical intimacy is pleasant, I am ultimately unsatisfied if the emotional element is not present and never will be. Hence my reluctance to continue as such.

I both admire and envy your optimism and willingness to share experiences that must be quite personal to you. Perhaps, at the very least, I shall attempt to be more open-minded about the possibility. There are many present of whom I have grown fond.

[teaserving]

ok i think i get you
i think maybe it'd be good to see if this person can fulfill the emotional part then
make you feel supported and cared for
maybe keep moonlacing to just handholding
kisses on the cheek
nothing else until you know you're ready
and they'd better respect that or they aren't worth your time

i don't know if it's optimistic
but he makes me happy and i'm glad we're doing this
i think personally it's worth the chance
even if it won't be forever
but then nothing is

[specialist_snowflake]

[This actually feels really good. She has no one to talk to about this kind of thing, so it's nice to speak, have someone else listen, and understand. The advice is solid and heartfelt as well.]

Understood. Should this person's feelings change, I will revisit the matter. A balance between the physical and emotional would certainly keep me from feeling overwhelmed.

You speak truth. May your happiness extend for many years to come.

If I may, I would like to express my gratitude with a gift. It has been liberating to speak about this with another. Do you have any preferences?

[teaserving]

yeah
i get that
it's not as fulfilling without both

thanks. i dont know about years
but hey maybe i'll get lucky

uh
this is kind of a first for me
i dont know
i like tea a lot? so i guess surprise me if you have a favorite blend

[specialist_snowflake]

It's good manners to express one's gratitude, particularly if it can be done in a tangible form. I consider myself a bit of a connoisseur when it comes to excellent tea, so expect you will not be disappointed.

[Two days after this message, a package will be sent containing a trio of tins. One is a white tea with a sweet, fruity tartness. The second is a rich black tea with a small note taped to the side that recommends adding exactly two tablespoons of cream and a small dab of honey. The last is an herbal spiced tea for relaxation. All three are of high quality and probably cost a pretty Chroma penny. Attached is a note with no name, simply 'Thank you' written in elegant cursive.]

[teaserving]

then i'll look forward to it
good luck ok?

[it's such a sweet gift that he almost doesn't know how to handle it but he will be enjoying that tea!!]