text; anonymous

[penpoint]

i hate that it's come to this but i need some advice on something
and due to the nature of the question i'd prefer to get a few perspectives rather than just one or two people

maybe someone else here has gone through the same thing

say that you and another person have known each other for a long, long time
but you were apart for awhile
and now you're both pretty different

how do you see someone as the person they are now?
how do you make them see you as the person you are now?


[ ooc; while this is anon. if your character has any reason to suspect who this is you're free to call him out ]

Comments

text | un: bungeegum

[nobodylikeshim]

A lot of biases, huh? That's hard. ♦
Still, you know, rarely is anyone seen like how they see themselves. ♠
So. How is it that you want to be seen? ♥

perm-anon.

[penpoint]

yes, that

it isn't about how i see myself
it is that i was very young and i've grown up

text

[champagnetower]

This is really sad.
I don't know what I would do.
I would probably try to be as I always was with them.
Maybe things between you are not as different as they seem.
I don't know.

[nobodylikeshim]

[ He's going to be fighting a thirteen-year-old who is actually a seventy-year-old to the death sometime this month, because no one else wants to fight him to the death, and even the thirteen-year-old doesn't even want to do it. ]

You may have to do something drastic.

perm-anon.

[penpoint]

but if you're different people, pretending things aren't different seems like it might do more harm than good?

i've never had to think about this before so obviously i'm not sure either

[penpoint]

drastic? such as?

i have to figure if it's a stupid type of drastic or just... drastic

[champagnetower]

I guess so.
I've never dealt with it before.
Maybe I'm dealing with it right now and don't know it.
But still I would try, I think.
If you've known someone a long time, then maybe you were close.
And bonds don't just vanish so maybe there's still something there.
Maybe.

text | un: bunsofsteel

[tensasai]

i guess it depends how close you were before
if you were friends it shouldn't be that hard to get along again, right?

perm-anon.

[penpoint]

very close
i always wanted to be near them

[ or, supposedly! ]

but it's not that we don't get along well still
it's that i think we get along because i'm seen as who i was then

[nobodylikeshim]

It is probably both?

[penpoint]

i suppose we are still close
but because of then not now

i'm sure this has been going on for awhile, and i feel like in some way many go through things like this

[penpoint]

oh good

i'm not surprised though if i'm honest

un: warum;

[regelkonform]

I think it depends on the sort of relationship you had before and how you know each other.

Are they family?
Or like family?
Someone you grew up with?
Or is it more a kind of situation regarding a different sort of relationship?

[ he thinks he’s getting at something here he swears ]

[champagnetower]

Do you think you would not be friends if you met now?
Instead of when you did?

[nobodylikeshim]

Oh?

Well. You should fight me to the death.

[tensasai]

it's hard sometimes to not hold on to your memories of someone
how they used to be
i'm not very good at it
but if you're that close you should just talk to them
they might surprise you

perm-anon, of course!

[penpoint]

i guess that does make a bit difference

like family, because i grew up with them

but we separated when we were young and a long time has passed

so we're both very different now

[penpoint]

i figured i'd eventually have to talk to them
but i'm trying to not let go of too many memories

[penpoint]

we are friends now
but i believe it is because of who i was then, not who i am now
or because of obligation

[penpoint]

i don't want to fight anyone to the death

text | un: pArtyLiKeItS1999

[nipzips]

sounds like you've over-complicating stuff, man. if you both like each other the same, there's no issue, right?

[champagnetower]

Does it truly count as a friendship if it's an obligation?

perm-anon.

[penpoint]

you're making it sound simple
people change a lot given many years to do so
do you want people to see you as the same person you were like - say - ten years ago?

[tensasai]

have you changed so much that whatever brought you together in the first place isn't the same?

[nobodylikeshim]

See?
No one is being seen as they want to be seen.
You have to be willing to compromise what you see a person as.

[ FIGHT ME IN THE FUCKING PIT YOU ANON COWARD FIGHT ME! ]