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prismatica2019-11-12 08:11 pm
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i hate that it's come to this but i need some advice on something
and due to the nature of the question i'd prefer to get a few perspectives rather than just one or two people
maybe someone else here has gone through the same thing
say that you and another person have known each other for a long, long time
but you were apart for awhile
and now you're both pretty different
how do you see someone as the person they are now?
how do you make them see you as the person you are now?
[ ooc; while this is anon. if your character has any reason to suspect who this is you're free to call him out ]
and due to the nature of the question i'd prefer to get a few perspectives rather than just one or two people
maybe someone else here has gone through the same thing
say that you and another person have known each other for a long, long time
but you were apart for awhile
and now you're both pretty different
how do you see someone as the person they are now?
how do you make them see you as the person you are now?
[ ooc; while this is anon. if your character has any reason to suspect who this is you're free to call him out ]
text | un: bungeegum
Still, you know, rarely is anyone seen like how they see themselves. ♠
So. How is it that you want to be seen? ♥
perm-anon.
it isn't about how i see myself
it is that i was very young and i've grown up
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You may have to do something drastic.
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I don't know what I would do.
I would probably try to be as I always was with them.
Maybe things between you are not as different as they seem.
I don't know.
perm-anon.
i've never had to think about this before so obviously i'm not sure either
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I've never dealt with it before.
Maybe I'm dealing with it right now and don't know it.
But still I would try, I think.
If you've known someone a long time, then maybe you were close.
And bonds don't just vanish so maybe there's still something there.
Maybe.
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text | un: bunsofsteel
if you were friends it shouldn't be that hard to get along again, right?
perm-anon.
i always wanted to be near them
[ or, supposedly! ]
but it's not that we don't get along well still
it's that i think we get along because i'm seen as who i was then
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how they used to be
i'm not very good at it
but if you're that close you should just talk to them
they might surprise you
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un: warum;
Are they family?
Or like family?
Someone you grew up with?
Or is it more a kind of situation regarding a different sort of relationship?
[ he thinks he’s getting at something here he swears ]
perm-anon, of course!
like family, because i grew up with them
but we separated when we were young and a long time has passed
so we're both very different now
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text | un: pArtyLiKeItS1999
perm-anon.
people change a lot given many years to do so
do you want people to see you as the same person you were like - say - ten years ago?
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it took every ounce of energy not to pick a fight
a lesson in tolerance ...
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permanon text | screw it this is far too potentially funny to pass up
It wouldn't be Rohan, though, anyway. Rohan's the type of person to always put his name to his words and ideas, and she'd recognize the way he writes, anyway. So, it's a little encouraging to think that someone else out there has a similar problem that she has. Maybe offering up her perspective will result in some clarity of her own; she can only hope.]
i wish i knew that answer to that, actually
sometimes it feels like a lot of people don't see me for who i really am
permanon, of course
i think it probably happens more often than some thing so... being aware of it is a good first step
but i'm not sure what to do after that
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text | also anonymous
Talk to them, make sure they talk to you.
And work on it.
Maybe it'll take time, but if they're worth it then it'll pan out.
permanon.
there is no person who is more worth it to me
however, you can't just make someone talk about this
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text | un : shielded
At the risk of sounding like most of the people here, I'd say just directly tell them, and it'd take time for both of you to accept it, but it's better having tried than not.
permanon
i don't know if that is going to be enough
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text | un: fantasma
i feel like if someone i knew in the past met me now, i'd be a lot different than they'd expect
for better or for worse
i dont know if it helps
but maybe try not to think hard about the past
and try to focus on getting to know them as they are now
it sounds like they're worth it to you
so make an effort to know them
and try to keep yourself open to them
tall request i know
permanon.
though, you have been the first to actually offer advice beyond 'talk'
because i know it is more than that
but i had no idea where to start
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Perma-anon
but before they ended up going home i just sorta resolved to let them figure their shit out and maybe once they did they’d come back to me and apologize and we could be cool again. I don’t think i can recommend just staying away from them though since you didnt have a fight or anything (did you?)
I guess... well ok I got another friend who kind of fits this too although im not sure if our time apart is the same amount as yours and we kept in touch but it also involves him being from a different point in time (and prolly universe tbh since his memories don’t match mine, six month difference aside) and like... he’s not totally the same. but he doesn’t really treat me any different and im trying not to treat him differently either but... i think we’re drifting too. Not doing it on purpose or anything but...
Um, I guess it depends on what you two still want out of your friendship? Like it sounds like you still wanna be their friend and stuff so just keep treating them like a friend. get to know them all over again if you have to and just see what happens?
Like what the person before me said, seems like a real tough situation! I’m not sure actually talking about it is gonna help like everyone says, although communicating is totally not a bad thing.
Ugh sorry I’m not really helping am I?
permanon
it's not really similar at all
but you're right on something
part of it may be similar to starting over
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text | un: Michel ♥
as a kid I was a lot more shy but i grew into a popular boy and my friends also changed a lot as well
i see them for who they are now and how we all grew
what you need to accept is the past is in the past and as much as you want it to be the same that wont happen
and sure they sometimes see me as that shy little stuttering kid but i think actions speak harder than words. or fists to a demon's face
same thing really
permanon.
don't call me babe if you enjoy keeping your fingers
i'm not saying it's different now, i'm saying it's not and it probably should be because we both are different
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I'm so sorry I never got the notif
all good!!