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I have a question. Consider it a bit of a survey or questionnaire. I'm curious. I want to remain anonymous, so that people feel like they can safely remain anonymous, as well.

What does love mean to you here? What did it mean to you at home? Is it different for both?

Relationships are seemingly more complicated here than they would be at most of our homes. I was wondering if others felt the same.

How are you managing it here in a place where it does seem more complicated? Are you doing the same things you would have done if you were at home?

Thank you for your time.

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i haven't even considered the concept of love in this place
honestly, it's a messy subject at home and with the introduction of amplified feelings here it would be just as or even more disastrous

like if people want to find love and make it work somehow that's all good and i support it
but personally speaking, i would rather not even attempt it

At its core, I think love is being happy through making someone else happy just for their own sake, with no expectation of repayment. It comes in different forms, but that core is the same. I don't think its meaning has changed while I've been here, but how I express that and with how many people certainly has. It's hard to determine how much of that is because of the different cultural mores of Japan and Lunatia and how much is because I've bonded more closely with people here than anyone at home. This is certainly different from how I behaved when I was alive, but whether here or there, I don't feel like I can commit to a... serious relationship isn't the term I'm looking for, because I do love my partners very much and I take their happiness very seriously. But I'm not going to be able to offer anyone a marriage and a life together.

I'm in a relationship here. It's with someone from my world who I was already close to before I came here.

The problem is, I was here for a while before he came, and there are several others I know I have feelings for. At home, I would just be happy to be with him, but with the moon cycles especially and the fact that I've been close to those people...it makes it hard to do something like that. I was never in any serious relationships at home, but honestly, I feel a little guilty. Relationships are definitely waaaaay more complicated here.

That's where I am, to be honest. If others want it, then maybe they should do it. But I have had difficulty understanding or figuring out how it would be possible when it is here. A lot of the things that impact us remove reason and inhibitions. I'd feel like it'd be more prone to disaster here.

i guess it's more like you can't fight against attraction and feelings. back at home i've had my fair amount of trouble with this, because i felt like it was something i needed until i decided i just didn't anymore.

given the circumstances of this place i've chosen to be involved with someone, but it's someone i know i can't ever fall in love with. they're rude, selfish and completely self-involved.

other than that they're an okay person, but not someone i would want to give my everything to.

I'm Japanese, as well. Certainly, we're culturally very different from Lunatia in how we view things such as love and relationships, anyway. It just seems both forward and less restrained here than I've ever seen anywhere. Like, people don't seem shy about expressing it, while being impacted by outside influences of this place that may not otherwise be present.

It's pretty fortunate that it hasn't impacted your approach drastically. I wonder if others are so lucky.

Someone from my world arrived this month, while I've been here for half a year now. I think I gave him a heart attack by directly offering to help with his Iris problems.

[Dazai is skittish anyway, so that's not as big of an accomplishment as it could be, but...]

i'm not getting into any of that stuff about love

but the moons make a big difference
they make some things more complicated
and other things easier

no i'm not doing the same things i would've done at home
i mean some of them are the same i guess
but a lot of it is different

Is the reason that you feel guilty because you want to commit to one person and those feelings for others are preventing it, or is it because you don't want to tie someone down to you when you know you can't do the same?

I wonder if it would be easier or harder to have feelings for someone from home.

Love, huh? 😙 😚 😍 😘 🥰
Something like that, I guess? 🤷‍♂️

It doesn't have to be complicated. 🙅‍♂️ 🙅‍♂️ 🙅‍♂️
Just think of what you want to do, and do it. 👍👍👍👍👍

Mhm. Shy? I guess since I'm anonymous, I don't have room to talk.

I'm finding it to be the same, too. I think and do things that maybe I wouldn't otherwise consider. It definitely makes things more complicated.

What is easier, though?

I was raised up pretty traditionally. Like "find a person and get married and maybe have a big family" kind of traditionally. So I always imagined as a kid that maybe, somehow, I'd have a future like that.

But things have changed. The person I'm with isn't exactly traditional at all. And I'm really happy with him, and he's really happy with me. But it kind of feels like going behind his back when I'm with other people? Like, well, to put it straight, I'm cheating oh nim. And he's not the type of person to really be that concerned at all about it, but it still bothers me. And its not like my feelings for others are really superficial either, which makes it harder, because I really do care about them. So yeah, more of the former than the latter.

Anyways, it's just a mess.

is love really that different here?
i have people i love at home, of course the variations are different but one isn't more important than the other

wouldn't it be possible to be friends while participating in the expectations of this world?
although i haven't thought of doing anything like sexy fun time here

Love is Having fun and being happy when you're together with someone, and wanting to be with them for as long as you can And doing what you can to make them happy, because that makes you happy, too Wanting to get to know more and more about them, and wanting to share things about yourself, too, And wanting to be close to them. There is no difference between what it means to me here or at home.

i mean i'm not going to pretend to give an answer if i don't really have one to give
or do you want me to just make shit up
because that doesn't sound like what you're looking for here

i think it's actually easier here
yeah it's more complicated
but i think the moons sort of make you more honest

Ah, using emojis to describe love. I'm surprised you're the first to think to do that.

I don't know if just 'doing what you want' is making it less complicated.

I'm guessing that's what you're doing, then?

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ It's the easiest way to explain it.

Of course, it is. ♥ How couldn't it?

Me? No. I've never been in love. ♦

love is overrated and unnecessary, things are only complicated here if you make them so

DON’T TALK TO STRANGERS ABOUT SHIT LIKE THIS
WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU??

about love? there's nothing wrong with love
i love all my friends... it makes me so warm and happy to see them and talk to them but even moreso when i see how happy they are (´▽`ʃ♡ƪ)

It's pretty different here, from what I've observed personally. Plus, with the influence of the moons, people may behave unexpectedly.

I guess that I should have clarified, the love of friendship would be much easier. I mean more... romantic love.

"Shit like this".

This is about as an innocent series of questions as I've ever seen here on the network.

If you have a list of reasons why this would be wrong, feel free to share.

THE OTHER THING!!

i’m talking about the sex part!
she can talk about love all she wants

That's lucky for you, I think. I don't know if it is quite the same here to me, as it would have been at home.

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