text | anonymous

[penpoint]

I have a question. Consider it a bit of a survey or questionnaire. I'm curious. I want to remain anonymous, so that people feel like they can safely remain anonymous, as well.

What does love mean to you here? What did it mean to you at home? Is it different for both?

Relationships are seemingly more complicated here than they would be at most of our homes. I was wondering if others felt the same.

How are you managing it here in a place where it does seem more complicated? Are you doing the same things you would have done if you were at home?

Thank you for your time.

Comments

text | permanon

[getstoned]

i haven't even considered the concept of love in this place
honestly, it's a messy subject at home and with the introduction of amplified feelings here it would be just as or even more disastrous

like if people want to find love and make it work somehow that's all good and i support it
but personally speaking, i would rather not even attempt it

text | permanon

[penpoint]

That's where I am, to be honest. If others want it, then maybe they should do it. But I have had difficulty understanding or figuring out how it would be possible when it is here. A lot of the things that impact us remove reason and inhibitions. I'd feel like it'd be more prone to disaster here.

un: tigerpoet

[tigerpoet]

At its core, I think love is being happy through making someone else happy just for their own sake, with no expectation of repayment. It comes in different forms, but that core is the same.

I don't think its meaning has changed while I've been here, but how I express that and with how many people certainly has. It's hard to determine how much of that is because of the different cultural mores of Japan and Lunatia and how much is because I've bonded more closely with people here than anyone at home.

This is certainly different from how I behaved when I was alive, but whether here or there, I don't feel like I can commit to a... serious relationship isn't the term I'm looking for, because I do love my partners very much and I take their happiness very seriously. But I'm not going to be able to offer anyone a marriage and a life together.

permanon

[penpoint]

I'm Japanese, as well. Certainly, we're culturally very different from Lunatia in how we view things such as love and relationships, anyway. It just seems both forward and less restrained here than I've ever seen anywhere. Like, people don't seem shy about expressing it, while being impacted by outside influences of this place that may not otherwise be present.

It's pretty fortunate that it hasn't impacted your approach drastically. I wonder if others are so lucky.

text | anonymous

[graftage]

I'm in a relationship here. It's with someone from my world who I was already close to before I came here.

The problem is, I was here for a while before he came, and there are several others I know I have feelings for. At home, I would just be happy to be with him, but with the moon cycles especially and the fact that I've been close to those people...it makes it hard to do something like that. I was never in any serious relationships at home, but honestly, I feel a little guilty. Relationships are definitely waaaaay more complicated here.

text | anonymous

[penpoint]

Is the reason that you feel guilty because you want to commit to one person and those feelings for others are preventing it, or is it because you don't want to tie someone down to you when you know you can't do the same?

I wonder if it would be easier or harder to have feelings for someone from home.

permanon text

[starmark]

i'm not getting into any of that stuff about love

but the moons make a big difference
they make some things more complicated
and other things easier

no i'm not doing the same things i would've done at home
i mean some of them are the same i guess
but a lot of it is different

permanon of course

[penpoint]

Mhm. Shy? I guess since I'm anonymous, I don't have room to talk.

I'm finding it to be the same, too. I think and do things that maybe I wouldn't otherwise consider. It definitely makes things more complicated.

What is easier, though?

text | un: bungeegum

[nobodylikeshim]

Love, huh? 😙 😚 😍 😘 🥰
Something like that, I guess? 🤷‍♂️

It doesn't have to be complicated. 🙅‍♂️ 🙅‍♂️ 🙅‍♂️
Just think of what you want to do, and do it. 👍👍👍👍👍

permanon

[penpoint]

Ah, using emojis to describe love. I'm surprised you're the first to think to do that.

I don't know if just 'doing what you want' is making it less complicated.

I'm guessing that's what you're doing, then?

text | un: cherryberry

[berryhappy]

is love really that different here?
i have people i love at home, of course the variations are different but one isn't more important than the other

wouldn't it be possible to be friends while participating in the expectations of this world?
although i haven't thought of doing anything like sexy fun time here

text; un: pewpewsp;

[grilletto]

DON’T TALK TO STRANGERS ABOUT SHIT LIKE THIS
WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU??

un: 1stQadrMargaFan

[wearingguess]

Love is
Having fun and being happy when you're together with someone, and wanting to be with them for as long as you can
And doing what you can to make them happy, because that makes you happy, too
Wanting to get to know more and more about them, and wanting to share things about yourself, too,
And wanting to be close to them.
There is no difference between what it means to me here or at home.

permanon

[penpoint]

That's lucky for you, I think. I don't know if it is quite the same here to me, as it would have been at home.

text; un: silverbullet;

[antipatheia]

love is overrated and unnecessary, things are only complicated here if you make them so

permanon

[penpoint]

I mostly agree. Though, I would never cave to some impulses at home that are harder to fight here, though. That's what makes things a bit more complicated.

Anonymous

[leekspins]

I'm not really sure anymore. I always thought it was caring about someone more than you care about yourself. But if that person doesn't care about you in that way, then keeping those feelings might be selfish.

I think you're right. Relationships are complicated.

Are you okay?

permanon

[penpoint]

If someone can't return the feelings, I probably would do everything I could to stop the feelings.

I mean, yes. Maybe more complicated. I can't speak as to whether they're easier at home than here, though.

As to if I'm okay - that's a bit of a loaded question, I'd say. The easy answer is: no.

permanon

[restringing]

I can't do the same things I do at home
The person I'm dating isn't here
So I don't know how I feel

I care about people I've grown close to and don't mind platonic moonlacing
But I'm scared of how the moonblessings can influence us so strongly
I'm worried I'll do something I regret and can't take back

What does love mean to you?

[penpoint]

I don't know what it means to me, really.

But, maybe your significant other could be understanding should they arrive here and see how this place can impact us. I prefer platonic Moonlacing, as well.

text; un: doved

[inducings]

[ Piper thinks about it, but in the end she can't pass this post by - and after a little more debate, she decides not to be anonymous about it. ]

I think of love as a motivator - the most powerful motivator in the world. That's not changed, no matter where I've been, although I haven't been here very long.

Why do you think relationships are more complicated here?

permanon, here

[penpoint]

Because the Moons tend to remove inhibitions, and may bring out behaviors that you may otherwise keep under control.

text | permanon

[affabel]

[Was there something in the water, relationships seemed a hot topic lately.

He hadn't been immune either though, the topic often on his mind. At least he could try to keep it private still by using anon conversation in an attempt to sort out his own thoughts. An outlet he only felt mildly bad for taking advantage of.]

I never really thought I'd find love, before.
Or at least I wasn't able to even try and look for it.
So it's always been this sort of out of reach thing.

Still is.
But I think it's possible to maintain here.
If you really want to.

permanon

[penpoint]

With the right individuals, circumstances, and a small amount of luck - I guess most people would consider anything could be possible.

text | un: fantasma

[teaserving]

why are you all like this
what is love etc etc yikes have you guys never had a crush before or something
come on now
anyway

love is like
a partnership. it's with someone you trust, someone you feel comfortable with
someone that makes you feel safe and at home where nothing else makes sense
the world is loud and horrible and you're just getting by but things make more sense are calmer around the person you want to be with

yeah it's more complicated because the future is uncertain but i dont regret it. despite what a fucking mess i am i really dont. id never take it back.

text; un: pewpewsp;

[grilletto]

i just wanna clarify right now
that this definitely isn't me
the post i mean
this message is me obviously

[ MISTA HE WOULDN'T THINK IT'S YOU ANYWAY BECAUSE OF THE FORMAT??? ]

text, un: raihan

[raihorn]

Just got here but don’t see what’s so hard. Do what you do, like what you like.
Guess we’ll see if I still think that after the moon, huh?

permanon

[penpoint]

Yeah. Depending on which Moon you're cursed with and how it impacts you - it can vary in how you feel about it. It's been different from month to month at times, too.

text; his_sword

[bought]

Love is the same here and at home. It's being by that one person's side through everything, never wavering.

But I'm lucky enough that he's here with me.

Even though we moonlace, I'm still not sure I fully understand his feelings...

permanon

[penpoint]

...How don't you, though?

text | anon with apologies for the essay

[chronicgambler]

maybe im weird but its easier here
back where im from i have a fucked up family and i ran away from home bc i couldnt stand them anymore so i guess that shows u how much i cared
but i got real lucky and made a friend through this other guy and we went through some shit
then i came here and i found out that guys been here a lot longer

some shit happened and idk what happened actually but one day it just fell in place and i asked him out like a fucking idiot and i told him i love him
idk if im qualified to do that tho
bc like what does a guy like me know about love? like what is love n what does it mean to people i guess thats what ur askin too but

at home it was fairy tale bullshit i hated hearin about and didnt have any interest in but then
idk
idk what im doin or if im doin it right but im doin my best and i think its totally possible to be happy n love somebody here if its the right person
im really careful bc i know i probably gotta be the worst at it but if i do whatever i can to make him happy then its a hundred times better than home
if we were home idk if wed ever get together

permanon, please rohan loves this

[penpoint]

Interesting.

I feel like your situation is probably more common than you may think in that if people were home, they may not have considered something like this, but here, it's different. I'd say that is a pretty big difference, to be honest.

Though, I am pretty curious:

Do you feel the moons had any impact, or maybe it was just the familiarity of having someone from home here with you?

text; un: alucard

[reposing]

Love is only more complicated here if you already have it for someone. You cannot ignore it or confine it as easily.
With the factors of moonblessings, it can almost be like torture.

permanon

[penpoint]

That makes sense. Especially if your loved one isn't here. There's always the question as to whether you want to give into what this place has to offer or stick to what you had before.

text; permanon

[zunge]

Love is an unnecessary delusion that manipulates people and which people manipulate others with. There are always strings attached, it's unlikely to be genuine, and I've long since decided not to bother with such fantasies. I'm not someone anyone is capable of giving two fucks about anyway, so why bother?

permanon

[penpoint]

That's pretty pessimistic, even to me. It sounds like you've been hurt.

I think you're the first I've heard who has said no one could care about you.

text; swordsss

[swordhardy]

I don't really think about it
Guess that's one of the benefits of being a daemon — most of that is dull for me

I can see how it could be more complicated
But, you know, humans are great at adapting

permanon

[penpoint]

...A daemon? Interesting. If you don't mind sharing what that means from your world - I'd be glad to listen.

Humans are good at adapting, we evolve and change; however, there's a lot we haven't figured out.

(Text; Anonymous)

[decisiveconquest]

My view of love has changed completely. I believed in it, once, but my time in Lunatia has convinced me that I have no need of it. Not romantic love, at least.

I am enjoying myself with whomever I wish. I would have been more cautious at home.

permanon

[penpoint]

I thought that would be a more common stance here for others, to be honest. I was a little surprised at the number of people who considered it worth it.

anon

[givemewings]

Love is the reason that you get your hands dirty.

Since living here, for me, love has spawned...

Intense feelings of jealousy, far outweighing anything I’ve felt at any other point in my life.

permanon

[penpoint]

So it's spawned more negative feelings for you than good.

The jealousy here isn't entirely surprising depending on the type of person that you are already, or what moon you may experience.