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[ragingnature]

[ She's been sitting on this for a little bit now, unsure how to proceed. Luckily there's this handy dandy thing called the internet that she can ask. Anonymously, no less. Granted she'll probably out herself fairly quickly. ]

Those of you in committed relationships here how do you go about things?

What I mean is the Moons and various happenings in this world have a tendency to cause complications. So how do you deal with those things? What kind of arrangement have you come to?

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[hotproblems]

Personally, I have never experienced a moon cycle so egregious that complications might arise, but I understand that may be simple luck. Still, I am another who has chosen monogamy.

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Realistically, I imagine the question to ask is how much leniency you are willing to give each other.

[ragingnature]

It's not just the moon cycles that might cause problems. This world is strange and sometimes things happen outside of the cyles.

I suppose so.

[hotproblems]

Oh, yes. Those. Well, rather the same. For me, at least.

Pardon my directness, but is your ultimate preference to remain as faithful as possible or to embrace these happenings as they come? I would recommend you start there with your other half.

[Just... assuming there is one, otherwise why make the inquiry, ahem.]

[ragingnature]

I'm not sure, actually. If you'd asked me this a few months ago I would have said I'd want to be as faithful as possible. And I suppose I still do. But I do enjoy doing things with others.

[hotproblems]

I do believe feeling uncertain is perfectly reasonable. A few months ago I would have refused anyone and risked turning to crystal, myself. A mature mind is open to change!

[ragingnature]

[ That actually makes her feel better given she was in a similar place herself. Though she was open to platonic Moonlacing. ]

That certainly makes me feel better.

Out of curiosity, have you and your partner had a talk about how to deal with a situation should it arise?

[hotproblems]

All at once, no, not quite. We tend to stay close to one another when those other happenings occur. It takes care of itself.

["Be a little intensely attached" is not the advice he's trying to give, how lowkey embarrassing, it's just, hmm, a personal truth.]

[ragingnature]

Oh, I see. I take it you're living together then?

[ To be fair, when she's with Hades they have a hard time keeping their hands to themselves. She'd probably end up in the same situation if they were actually dating. ]

[hotproblems]

Indeed! It's quite convenient.

[....in all the ways that implies, for sure.]

Before we met I was getting by on friendly group hugs, but I suppose ending every temptation in a group hug is useless advice. Still, having a frank discussion about your concerns is always helpful.

[ragingnature]

I imagine so.

Yeah. I suppose I need to figure out what I want.

[hotproblems]

Perhaps you could make a list of pros and cons of your various options.

And... do try not to be too hasty, frustrating as it may be. You will feel better taking your time.

[ragingnature]

I'm starting to think that's the best place to start at this point.

I'll try not to. [ But that's so difficult when it comes to Hades. ]

[hotproblems]

List first, then discussion! Practice in front of a mirror if you must.

[Trust him, this one is legit.]

In any case, good luck. I do hope you find the happiness that suits you while you're here.

[ragingnature]

I don't think I need to practice in front of a mirror.

[ How is this more difficult than when she set boundaries with him back home? ]

Thank you. I certainly hope so as well.