006 » TEXT; un: Anonymous

[ragingnature]

[ She's been sitting on this for a little bit now, unsure how to proceed. Luckily there's this handy dandy thing called the internet that she can ask. Anonymously, no less. Granted she'll probably out herself fairly quickly. ]

Those of you in committed relationships here how do you go about things?

What I mean is the Moons and various happenings in this world have a tendency to cause complications. So how do you deal with those things? What kind of arrangement have you come to?

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text | j.valentine

[torsion]

I'm pretty new to being in a relationship, but we agreed to be monogamous.

You deal with it as it comes. I guess it might be easier for me being someone that enjoys fighting and falls under Sanguis moon, but it's not much of an issue for me.
If things changed for some reason, I'd just talk to him.
The real arrangement we have, I guess, is honesty.

text; un: 🌹

[hotproblems]

Personally, I have never experienced a moon cycle so egregious that complications might arise, but I understand that may be simple luck. Still, I am another who has chosen monogamy.

[...]

Realistically, I imagine the question to ask is how much leniency you are willing to give each other.

text: un; catpurrcino

[chainlinks]

[Time to be a protagonist and help anon with their trouble best he can.]

I am lucky so far that those I am with are alright with 'complications' happening. It is a delicate balance, since you need everyone to know you love them equally, but I find it's worth it.

text | un: demonchef

[satanslash]

talked about it, came to agreements that if a friend really needs help during a moon or if something just happens we wouldnt hold it against the other person

honestly though we're so focused on each other it hasnt been a problem yet

un: f.b.

[amant]

What do you mean by complications?

What I mean is, is it a matter of Moonlacing too frequently and lacking proper sleep? Or, is it the very high likelihood of you finding multiple people outside of your 'committed' relationship attractive and not knowing what to do?

[ Valid questions from the gross French dude here. ]

text | anonymous

[hopticulture]

My boyfriend is the kind of guy who gets really weird if he realizes I've been hanging out with another male, so we haven't really talked about any sort of arrangement while we've been here...

I've just been doing my best to avoid complications, which I know isn't the best advice or the kind of answer you're probably looking for.

[ragingnature]

I see. I'm not in a relationship but the possibility has presented itself and I suppose I want a plan for how I'm going to approach things first.

Being honest makes sense.

[ragingnature]

It's not just the moon cycles that might cause problems. This world is strange and sometimes things happen outside of the cyles.

I suppose so.

[ragingnature]

So you have multiple partners?

[ She still can't wrap her head around that. Then again, she hasn't even had a relationship to begin with. ]

[ragingnature]

That makes sense.

It must be nice to have someone you love that much.

[ragingnature]

Well, you know how things happen outside of the moon cycle that can cause similar effects? That's what I mean.

[ragingnature]

Oh. [ That seems concerning to her. ]

That was easier when I didn't have a roommate.

[chainlinks]

Yeah.

[It's hopefully not bad advice, he hopes.]

I'm bad at picking just one person...

[hotproblems]

Oh, yes. Those. Well, rather the same. For me, at least.

Pardon my directness, but is your ultimate preference to remain as faithful as possible or to embrace these happenings as they come? I would recommend you start there with your other half.

[Just... assuming there is one, otherwise why make the inquiry, ahem.]

[ragingnature]

I see.

Honestly, being in this world is the first time I've actually found myself attracted to multiple people.

[torsion]

Figure out what you want and prefer first and go from there. If someone can't meet you halfway, then they probably aren't worth it.

Getting ahead of myself, though. Might be awkward to talk about, but it's worth it.

[ragingnature]

I'm not sure, actually. If you'd asked me this a few months ago I would have said I'd want to be as faithful as possible. And I suppose I still do. But I do enjoy doing things with others.

[ragingnature]

Yeah, that makes sense. Maybe I need to sit down and do a pros and cons list.

Awkward might be a little bit of an understatement.

[hotproblems]

I do believe feeling uncertain is perfectly reasonable. A few months ago I would have refused anyone and risked turning to crystal, myself. A mature mind is open to change!

[chainlinks]

Here's how I see it (and note that it may not apply to you whoever you are), some of us appear and some of us disappear at a notice's time.

I've been here since the first 'outsiders' showed up in this world, meet up with and lost some of my friends during this time. People from my world, people from a world where I'm named differently, people from my world but earlier in time than me, people from my world who are dead, people from other worlds that I've never been to or knew of before here in as well.

I don't know how long I'll be here, or how long the other people will be. Because of that, I don't want to regret not saying something and then never seeing them again.

[amant]

[ Persephone, those are horny perks. ]

I'm very familiar with those complications but it's never really caused tension between my partners and myself. Are you trying to not have sex with them?

[ Cannot relate, but no shame. ]

[ragingnature]

[ That actually makes her feel better given she was in a similar place herself. Though she was open to platonic Moonlacing. ]

That certainly makes me feel better.

Out of curiosity, have you and your partner had a talk about how to deal with a situation should it arise?

[ragingnature]

That makes sense.

Honestly, there's only the one person I want to be in a relationship with but I do enjoy being with others. I believe I've heard it called friends with benefits. I kind of like that.

But being with this person might make me change my mind. Maybe I've gotten ahead of myself with all this.

[ragingnature]

[ Perks, sure. ]

No?

I don't know.

I don't currently have a partner, just friends I sometimes do things with. But there is one person I'd like to be with and I'm trying to figure out how to approach them. I thought I'd see how others are doing things so I can decide what I'm going to.

[hotproblems]

All at once, no, not quite. We tend to stay close to one another when those other happenings occur. It takes care of itself.

["Be a little intensely attached" is not the advice he's trying to give, how lowkey embarrassing, it's just, hmm, a personal truth.]