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[ragingnature]

[ She's been sitting on this for a little bit now, unsure how to proceed. Luckily there's this handy dandy thing called the internet that she can ask. Anonymously, no less. Granted she'll probably out herself fairly quickly. ]

Those of you in committed relationships here how do you go about things?

What I mean is the Moons and various happenings in this world have a tendency to cause complications. So how do you deal with those things? What kind of arrangement have you come to?

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un: f.b.

[amant]

What do you mean by complications?

What I mean is, is it a matter of Moonlacing too frequently and lacking proper sleep? Or, is it the very high likelihood of you finding multiple people outside of your 'committed' relationship attractive and not knowing what to do?

[ Valid questions from the gross French dude here. ]

[ragingnature]

Well, you know how things happen outside of the moon cycle that can cause similar effects? That's what I mean.

[amant]

[ Persephone, those are horny perks. ]

I'm very familiar with those complications but it's never really caused tension between my partners and myself. Are you trying to not have sex with them?

[ Cannot relate, but no shame. ]

[ragingnature]

[ Perks, sure. ]

No?

I don't know.

I don't currently have a partner, just friends I sometimes do things with. But there is one person I'd like to be with and I'm trying to figure out how to approach them. I thought I'd see how others are doing things so I can decide what I'm going to.

[amant]

[ There's a big oh moment. ]

Well why didn't you just say that?!

It depends on this person you're interested in being with. For example, I am involved with multiple partners but still have 'complications' with individuals that I am not romantically involved with.

I wouldn't be able to do that if one of my partners wanted to be monogamous. You have to have honesty with the things you want. I'm far past the point of believing monogamy is for me, but that's a personal preference I won't begrudge. It's quaint.

[ QUAINT. France... ]

[ragingnature]

So what I'm gathering is I need to make a list and then talk to them.

The thing is, I've never been in a romantic relationship. I don't even know what to expect from it outside of what I've read or seen in movies. And I know all of that is pretty unrealistic.

[ She's just doing things all out of order over here. ]

[amant]

Talking to them would be a good start, yes. Do they at least know that you have feelings for them? Is it reciprocated?

I couldn't help but scroll a bit and see some of the other responses to your question. If you enjoy entertaining the idea of having friends with benefits you might want to even address that. You being affectionate to your friends doesn't mean your feelings are any less valid. It's something that needs to be agreed upon though.

[ragingnature]

They know how I feel for them and I know they like me, to what extent, however, I'm unsure. Which is obviously a place to start.

Yeah, I know.

I think I've got an idea of what I'm going to do now. But I'm still curious about the arrangements others have come to if something happens, you know?