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[dereban]

so, once again, iiiiit's your local prismanon asking for some advice!

it's almost the end of the year, huh? like, ten months deep. i've been here for like, what? almost half a year now? that's kind of shocking to be honest. and it makes me wonder. who here misses their homes? but more so than that...

we're getting 'older' here, right? like, if your birthday passes, you count that as a +1 to your age, right?

so, the real question i have here is simple: if you start getting older than all of your friends back home, isn't it kind of sad? you spend all your time here, getting to know people, maybe making new friends. but you're aging. you don't know if your world's time is moving. like... i'm the only one from my world here, tbh. it's lonely! ( ´•̥̥̥ω•̥̥̥` )

the other thing ig i wanted to ask is...

if the person you care about the most is back home, how do you deal with that? how can you just bear waiting to figure out how to get home -- when you've been in this world for so long that you've almost given up hope on the idea that maybe, one day, they'll show up here. or even that you might actually go back?

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[wearingguess]

It should have less to do with whether your birthday has passed than with how much time there was until your birthday back on your own world, right?
For example, if someone left their own world the day after their birthday
But due to the different timeline we are on here in this world, they arrived here on the day before their birthday
They would not be a whole additional year older just because their birthday had passed again.

I was also incredibly worried about the possibility that all the time I've spent here was also passing back there. I didn't even want to think about all the problems it must be causing for everyone back home, and how worried they must be...
But then people from my world arrived, and they told me that from their perspectives, I never disappeared. So I was able to relax a bit... but at the same time, I don't know whether that means that I will eventually return to the same moment from which I departed, or that it means I myself have somehow become a separate existence from the "me" who remained... or that it means something else entirely.

But I am afraid I really have no useful advice for dealing with the absence of the person I care about most. I suppose I only "deal" with it by having no other choice...
I am lucky in that my friend who arrived was able to tell me that she remains well and happy... even three years later. But
Knowing that does nothing to change how terribly I miss her here and now.
I do not know whether there is really anything we can do about that.

[dereban]

well my birthday was 'last month' back home
but my birthday isn't 'one year after', it's just a 'few months after', here
it just feels kind of weird not celebrating it, though, and i don't want to like somehow place my birthday in some weird, arbitrary month just because i've been here for a year, you know?

yeah, i've been worrying this whole time bc unlike everyone else, i don't have people from back home
but if people have told you that...

maybe something like different existences?
parallel universes??
i'm not sure
i'd have to look it up
i definitely don't want to forget anything that happened here, though

[wearingguess]

If the calendars here and there are similar enough that there is a definite corresponding date to your birthday, you may as well celebrate then!
Though it may also be prudent to make a note of when the full year has passed, as well. And perhaps you could have a secondary celebration at that time.

I don't think "everyone else" has people from back home
Although there are certainly some people who have such a large number of their friends, family, or acquaintances here with them that it begins to seem almost suspicious... One wonders what the moons (or whatever force is responsible for our arrivals) sees in that group or that world that they don't see in others...
Then again, there are many, many people in a world. It may be possible that more people are from the same worlds than even realize it, and they simply never had occasion to meet before now

Do you dislike the idea of forgetting on principle, or have you made specific memories here that are too precious to give up?

[dereban]

it's definitely similar... afaik
although i don't think i want to celebrate having been in this world for a year.
kind of makes me uncomfortable to think about it

i think there's more people - from my experience? - that have people of those they know from back home than not
it's weird.

the former.

[wearingguess]

Well, naturally you would be celebrating having passed the totality of your twentieth year, or seventeenth, or whichever
Not celebrating having lived in Lunatia for a year.

Although really, I suppose anyone can celebrate anything they like, at any time & for any reason whatsoever

I see
I hope it doesn't sound strange to say that I hope soon it might also be for the latter reason!

[dereban]

i guess that's true? it just feels weird to celebrate my birthday on a different day.

and hopefully. we'll see.

[wearingguess]

Then of course, you should celebrate on the traditional day

But perhaps also make a note of the other one for legal/recordkeeping purposes.

[dereban]

i probably should

i've been keeping track of my days here, so it's not like it's a big addon, anyway.