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[teaserving]

so i noticed a lot of you guys just love to go anonymous and ask for insight or whatever
however
i'm a well of knowledge and ready to tell you how to not fuck yourself up more

so here it is
leone abbacchio ready to give you life advice
submit your questions and i'll give you an answer for the life guidance you obviously need

feel free to go anonymous or not i promise i dont give a shit

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anon

[piercedyourheart]

so back at home i thought i was only into guys
and since coming here i'm starting to realize i'm probably into guys and girls
its all really confusing and idk how to handle it
any advice?

[teaserving]

first of all: congrats on your awakened bisexuality
sometimes it takes people years to figure their shit out so dont feel bad you didn't realize you were into girls too

second of all: it's tough
i had to figure out my sexuality mostly on my own
and i made mistakes on the way
so i guess if i were in your shoes i'd want someone i could rely on that i knew i could trust even if they couldn't relate or give me advice even just someone to talk to really helps air out your thoughts

so finally: it's okay to be scared and freaked out or even just a little confused
try exploring a bit if you want
but bottom line if you're looking for a bf or gf just let it come naturally and just communicate with them what you're comfortable with

[piercedyourheart]

thanks i guess
thats the first time ive heard that term actually

having someone to talk to makes a lot of sense but it feels like a lot to ask of someone
like even if theyre someone you trust i'd get worried they would get tired of talking about it
and just up and leave or something like that

exploring doesnt sound bad
the moons end up pushing people in that direction anyway
still it feels silly that i dont know what im comfortable with

[teaserving]

from what it sounds like that's what you are
but hey it's just a label don't worry about it
labels work for some people but not all
example: im gay, i only like men, that works for me

i get that feeling
but also you gotta trust your friends
it's hard to do because you dont want to be a shitty burden but i really encourage you to trust them if they say they're willing to listen

nah don't feel silly
i mean hell im learning shit about myself all the time?
especially lately
but you'll know. even if it's a learning on the fly kind of thing. just don't be scared to speak up for yourself.

[piercedyourheart]

honestly the label is okay
its nice to have a name for how i feel
rolls off the tongue faster than "into guys and girls" anyway

i know its worth it to put my trust in them
ive had to do that for bigger things than this and if i needed them theyd be there
i kinda get that feeling with the new friends ive made here too
always hard to open up though

cant help but learn new things when every month theres some weird new stuff trying to kill us
plus we never stop growing. i thought i would once i started college but as long as we're alive something or someone will always throw us for a loop. those complications are what makes life interesting and beautiful
and lol most people who know me would say im the least likely to be scared of speaking up for myself

[teaserving]

trust me, im utter shit at opening up
but i know i'd go crazy if i didn't have someone i could confide in
i hope you get someone like that

i'm 21 going on 22 in like half a year and trust me shit's always going to make you change
i've been through a lot i sure wasn't the same person i am now like two years ago

anyway i hope things work out for you and you figure out what you're looking for

[piercedyourheart]

thanks a lot, mr. leone "font of knowledge" abbacchio
this helped a lot
you should do this more often

[teaserving]

im honestly surprised how many people asked for legit advice
but yeah
you're welcome
good luck