⏪ text | un: fantasma | DEAR ABBA part the second

[teaserving]

hey
so it looks like you guys are asking a million crazy questions again

well guess what here i come the foundation of wisdom leone abbacchio
ask your questions anonymously or whatever
i'll answer
since all of you are desperately asking for advice all the time!

ps: did you know your moonblessing can swap
just found out
fucking nuts

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[scarsnstripes]

[Moonblessings can swap???

Well, that's something to look out for.... But seeing this post has him wondering if this might be a possible help for a question he's been struggling with. It takes him a bit to figure out how to go anonymous, but when he does--]

This probably sounds silly to ask, and I apologize for asking such a question.

How do you know if what you feel for someone is love?

[teaserving]

nah
it's not that silly
love's complicated but also simple? it's weird to explain

but for me
it's when i feel calm around someone
that not everything feels loud or crazy
it's like being at home when you haven't had one in so long
you feel safe and warm

that can cover all kinds
romantic or familial
that can be a bit tough to discern but that's love all the same

[scarsnstripes]

[Calm... 'like being home'. Safe and warm...

This is only giving Atsushi more questions.]

But I have multiple people I feel that way around.

Are you sure that's love?

I didn't family or loved ones for a long time so it's hard to understand what I feel.

[teaserving]

ok
real talk here
the only family member i felt close to was my grandma and she died when i was still a kid

after that the only people i've loved have been basically my adopted family
people who got together because they had no where else to go
i've never had a real home, not unless i was with them
so i guess you want to ask yourself if you're curious it's love or romantic love
which are you asking about?

[scarsnstripes]

I have people I'm close to now but I wouldn't know if we're family. I know they're my home. I know I'm close to them all. I know I can count on them all no matter what.

But I'm asking about romantic love specifically.

[teaserving]

ok
so
romantic love

that's more like
god how do i put this
for me, it's someone i trust. that i dedicate myself to. someone i would do anything for no matter the circumstances
someone who values me
even when i feel like i have no value
it's
like when they're not with you, you forget to breathe.
it's a lot.

[scarsnstripes]

[There's a long pause before that gets a response.

Mostly because.... there's two people that immediately come to mind, when he thinks about those words.]

Aside from the breathing part, which only happens when I'm not sure they're safe... that describes how I feel about two people off the top of my head. I always want to be around them. They make me incredibly happy. Happier than I think I might deserve.

Is that bad?

[teaserving]

i don't know
there are people who have done open dating
i haven't before but i don't knock it either
but it might be something only you can figure out for yourself

sounds like you might need to talk to a couple of people and see how they feel about you