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[burstmodes]

yo it's me again ✌️

sort of noticed a lot of questions going around about love and dating and all kinds of other stuff
figured i throw some more into the pot
see what we could uh cook up haha

[ Ignis, if you hear this, he's not really that sorry. ]

anyway so

say you were seeing somebody and they had these secrets
like stuff they never told you
would that be a deal breaker if they ever came up
(guess this goes for people who are the ones with the secrets too)

or what if there was something you wanted to tell someone but weren't really sure how to go about doing it
easy in like all up front or ignore it and hope for the best? 🤔

oh oh and one more thing
anyone here a sword expert?
don't answer if you're thinkin about 🍆💦
serious stuff only

[ Honestly, he doesn't care too much for that last part, but he had to be specific. ]

Comments

text | j.valentine

[torsion]

I'd expect them to tell it to me.
And if it was me, I'd sit them down and talk about it. No matter how difficult it is.

There are little secrets like things you've done in your past and there are bigger ones that will change how they might see you or feel about you. If you're asking this question you know what kind it is and if it's important or not to talk about it.

But that's just me. I don't make it a secret that I'd need honesty and trust above all else and my definitions are more stringent than some.

[burstmodes]

nah i get it
i guess some part of me is worried less about the feel part and more about the what happens next part
you know... in this hypothetical situation and all

i've had to deal with stuff like this before
it's never easy and after a point it just seems like you shouldn't bother too much

[torsion]

"Easier said than done," right?
I mean, something has to happen next regardless. Even if you don't budge, everything else won't remain immobile around you.

A lot of things can seem like that. You just gotta decide whether you think it's worth it or not.
Is the "good" potential payoff worth more to you than the pain of the potential "bad"? Only you can answer that, unfortunately.

I've had to make some pretty snap decisions without ever getting answers. Without knowing if any good at all would come from it. But you have to take that leap even if it seems unfair that you have to do it.

[ And for her, it was a literal one. ]

[burstmodes]

like you said easier said than done
but i get it

guess i'll just need some time to think about it for myself
and talk it out no matter what
some stuff is easier to forgive than others you know?
so i think you have to consider that too

[ Otherwise, what was the point of all this anyway? Never mind that he's outing himself with it. ]

sorry you've had to deal with that though

[torsion]

I mean, I get it. You don't have to push yourself or rush.
Don't put that pressure on yourself. Otherwise it won't work out.
You gotta focus on you and the long-term, yeah?

Sometimes things can be rough. Sorry you're dealing with this right now, too.

If you need a break from thinking, give me a ring. Drinks'll be on me. ;)