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[burstmodes]

yo it's me again ✌️

sort of noticed a lot of questions going around about love and dating and all kinds of other stuff
figured i throw some more into the pot
see what we could uh cook up haha

[ Ignis, if you hear this, he's not really that sorry. ]

anyway so

say you were seeing somebody and they had these secrets
like stuff they never told you
would that be a deal breaker if they ever came up
(guess this goes for people who are the ones with the secrets too)

or what if there was something you wanted to tell someone but weren't really sure how to go about doing it
easy in like all up front or ignore it and hope for the best? 🤔

oh oh and one more thing
anyone here a sword expert?
don't answer if you're thinkin about 🍆💦
serious stuff only

[ Honestly, he doesn't care too much for that last part, but he had to be specific. ]

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text, un: bellabelle

[doreimi]

Haha, well, it's White Day today, so it's a good day for questions about love and dating!

Anyway, I'm someone with a couple of secrets, and I've been someone who's had to try to figure out how to tell those secrets to the people I care about, so I guess I can talk about that with some experience.

For me...when I can get away with ignoring it, I usually do. At least at first, because my secrets are the kind of secrets that it'd be pretty hard to guess without me drawing attention to them. And...honestly? I don't want people to think differently about me because of them, at least not until they've had the chance to get to know me.

But once they do? I try to tell them. And there's really no easy way to lead into my secrets gently, so...up front is pretty much the only way I can do it, haha.

[burstmodes]

ok just real quick
what's white day?

[ He knows about Valentine's Day and some of the other ridiculous love holidays, but... not too familiar with that one. ]

but yeah that makes total sense
i guess it's more like... is it even worth telling if you don't wanna tell it in the first place?
i've been thinking about it ever since i got here
seems pretty iffy if we don't even have a choice in how long we stay

but that's something else entirely lol

[doreimi]

Oh, it's a romantic holiday that we observe where I'm from. So on February 14th, it's Valentine's Day, which is the day for girls to give chocolates to the boys they like. A month later is White Day, when the boys are supposed to reciprocate to all the girls who gave them chocolate. One month, so that's March 14th.

I mean...is it the sort of secret that they might find out anyway, whether you tell them or not? Because if it is, then it's better to tell them and have some control over how they find out.

But if there's no chance at all that they could ever know, then...that's a little different, I think.

[burstmodes]

oh
does it have to be a reciprocating thing?
like could i just give it to anybody i wanted instead??

and not sure
i think it really doesn't matter to anybody except me
so maybe it's just me being dumb
it's all pretty confusing sometimes
guess i should've thought about this some more

[doreimi]

I mean, I don't see why not? But I really like romantic things, personally, so I'm never going to say no to someone wanting to do that kind of thing. You know?

Hey, if it matters to you, then it's not dumb! But you're probably right that it seems like a bigger thing to you than it would be to the people who care about you. That's usually the way things like that go.

[burstmodes]

does that mean you've gotten stuff for white day?
last question i promise haha

i'll probably just think about it forever and never do it
or say it by accident
that's usually how these things go 😬

[doreimi]

I sure did! I woke up to some presents this morning and everything. It was awfully sweet!

Oh, I do that too, all the time! One of my secrets just slips out a lot, when I'm not even thinking about it.

[burstmodes]

ok cool
hopefully from somebody you like 😉👌

if that's true it must not be a terrible secret or anything

text; un: simonprime

[theseuschip]

Depends on what the secret is. For both of those.

[doreimi]

Yeah, well. I guess he's all right. ;)
And he knows everything I like best, so he made sure to get all my favorites!

I mean, I guess terrible is sort of in how you look at it? I'm sort of used to it but I can see how it would bother other people.

[burstmodes]

say it was something uh pretty life changing?
life altering?
i dunno just really Big

[burstmodes]

your boyfriend?

[ ...no, wait. Why did he type that? Ahhhh. ]

i mean
you don't have to answer that
it just sort of sounds like it

yeah you're right
i'm definitely overthinking this a lot
what about the other way around?
would you wanna know all of someone's secrets?

[doreimi]

Hmm, how can I put it? He's the one person who's more important to me than anything. So it's pretty sweet of him to do something like that for me.

And, um...

I think...if they were secrets that hurt the person I cared about, then I would want to know them so that I could help support that person. But I also don't think they should HAVE to tell me all their secrets. So I guess yes, I would want to know? But I would understand if they didn't want me to.

[theseuschip]

I've had a few of those.

You might have to figure it out on the spot if they see this.

[tayoru]

[ He can't see what you did there. Because he's blind.

Still ashamed of u tbh. ]

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[noenvy]

Secrets will be shared when the time is right. If they don't want to share, that's fine. If they're someone you care about it shouldn't matter.

As for telling someone something, I guess it depends on what it is and what it would do if shared.

As for swords, I wouldn't call myself an expert, but I know how to use them.

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[badluckblues]

is it a deal breaker? or are they just assuming it is? important distinction, as it turns out

anyway i guess you could say i know my way around a sword

[burstmodes]

[ Good thing, but look. He was going to message him anyway. ]

hey iggy
got a question for ya
actually it's less of a question and more like a joke
wanna hear it??

[burstmodes]

well if you feel that way about him he must feel that way about you
pretty lucky dude in my opinion

that's a good way of putting it
i'll definitely have to think about this more
and just in case i'm not the one with the secret so it makes it harder to decide i think
if i wanna know or if stuff is good the way it is

[ Would the things he knows even be considered a secret anymore? Oh well, that's a thought for another day. ]

[burstmodes]

i guess that's a good way of looking at it
but what if it freaked you out anyway when you found out

[ He's not saying something happened, but... something happened. ]

can you make them too??

[burstmodes]

not sure
i think it's one of those 50/50 things
so could be but not really at the same time?

like using them?
or do you know how to make them too??

[ Asking for Reasons. ]

[burstmodes]

nah i'm not really worried about that
just asking mostly to see what other people say in general

[doreimi]

Aw, you're such a charmer! Have you ever had someone in your life that makes you feel like...they're so important, you wouldn't be "you" without them? He's like that.

I mean, it can definitely be hard when it's someone else who has the secret, because your imagination can get a little crazy with wondering what the secret might be, right? But I think, if you care about that person a lot, then sometimes you just have to trust them. And try to tell yourself that whatever it is they're not telling you, their reasons aren't bad, because they care about you too and they're trying to do the right thing.

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[hotshock]

Guess it depends on the secret? [Reno's not much for typing if he can avoid it, too much work.] Are we talking "I masturbate into your shirt" secrets? Or are we talking about "you know me as Mark, but I'm really Steve and I have this life you know nothing about and expect you to drop everything to accommodate my Steve life even though you're invested in the Mark life" secret?

On the whole, I don't think secrets are a problem [he wouldn't] you can never know absolutely everything about a person and some things you probably don't want to know. Like if someone masturbated into my shirt for example, just wash it, dry it, fold it and put it away so that I'm none the wiser and we're both happier not knowing and not telling.

[He shrugs his shoulders as if it's not a big deal and it isn't in his opinion.]

Just depends on the secret.

[Reno contemplates the next question for all of a few seconds before answering.]

If I had something to say to someone I'd just say it, but that's because I don't see the point in ignoring it. You could always hope for the best later.

[]He's not going to respond to the last bit, his only expertise in swords is having one swung at him.]

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[hopticulture]

Secrets can be frustrating to deal with but I think it's also pretty common to have at least a secret or two you keep from your partner.

I guess it just depends in the end.

But if there's something you definitely want to tell someone else then you should just say it. I wouldn't try to ignore something if you're looking at it as a "hope for the best" sort of thing.