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[burstmodes]

yo it's me again ✌️

sort of noticed a lot of questions going around about love and dating and all kinds of other stuff
figured i throw some more into the pot
see what we could uh cook up haha

[ Ignis, if you hear this, he's not really that sorry. ]

anyway so

say you were seeing somebody and they had these secrets
like stuff they never told you
would that be a deal breaker if they ever came up
(guess this goes for people who are the ones with the secrets too)

or what if there was something you wanted to tell someone but weren't really sure how to go about doing it
easy in like all up front or ignore it and hope for the best? 🤔

oh oh and one more thing
anyone here a sword expert?
don't answer if you're thinkin about 🍆💦
serious stuff only

[ Honestly, he doesn't care too much for that last part, but he had to be specific. ]

Comments

[burstmodes]

i don't usually have a problem saying things to people

[ Unless they involve him, and then it's air-tight. ]

i guess it just makes you wonder what makes somebody decide to tell certain things over other stuff
especially when you usually don't know a whole lot about any of it in the first place

[hopticulture]

Maybe they're just embarrassed about it? Or it's something they don't even think is a secret, they just don't feel like saying anything about it.

I usually say what's on my mind myself, but sometimes not everything about me is something I'd want to bring up and talk about? Context matters.

[burstmodes]

yeah
i mean i know you're right
it's just something that i've had to think more about in the last few hours than i ever have before

sometimes you just need a distraction from even that you know?

[hopticulture]

Why? I mean, was this secret...you know...
Like a secret past lover they kept from you or something?

[burstmodes]

no no nothing like that
i think that would have been better lol

and i probably shouldn't say anyway
at least not over text
it's pretty embarrassing

[hopticulture]

Embarrassing for you or the person who was keeping the secret from you?
I mean if it's just embarrassing then it's probably not that big of a deal as far as secrets go.

[burstmodes]

both??
i mean not just embarrassing...
not really sure how to explain it aside from that

i don't think stuff is really going to be the same

[ But he could be waaaay overthinking it. ]

[hopticulture]

...sounds like you're overthinking it.

Relationships take a lot of effort and they aren't supposed to be easy, of course! But you kind of sound like you're catastrophizing which is also just as bad as treating a relationship like it's simple.

[burstmodes]

it's not exactly like that either
i'm just saying it's all kind of up in the air right now

but i'm sure it'll be fine

[ Because that's just how he needs to see it, or else. ]

[hopticulture]

Leaving things up in the air will probably not help.

You should talk to them. Otherwise you might make really bad assumptions.

[Like when she stupidly assumed her boyfriend-not-boyfriend moved on and was seeing some other herbivore when it was really just his neighbor.

HOO BOY she still feels stupid about that.]

1/2

[burstmodes]

i know it won't but uh
hang on

2/2 ( private )

[burstmodes]

it's not exactly my secret?
just something that happened to me and i think we both need some time to adjust

( private )

[hopticulture]

[.......tbh she feels like the Last Person who should be giving relationship advice but like.]

Did someone try to eat you or something?

[sorry she is but a tiny herbivore and that is going to be the first thing that comes to mind.]

[burstmodes]

[ Honestly, that would have been preferable to what had actually happened. ]

nah
might have been easier if he had
but it's more like
well you know how people end up with crazy stuff during the moons?
sort of like that only super scary

[hopticulture]

[honestly? relatable.]

You might as well just tell me what happened then. You went private for a reason, right?

[SORRY SHE IS JUST. a very blunt, upfront kind of gal.]