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Goro Akechi ([personal profile] foolishjustice) wrote in [community profile] prismatica2019-08-21 12:30 am

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I have a question, that...you'll probably understand my reasons for posting anonymously once you finish reading.

The local culture is very open and laid back about sexual interest. It's different as hell from my own home, where men who show sexual attraction are viewed as disgusting perverts and assumed to be dangerous, while people don't even fucking think about women having an interest in sex beyond wanting to have children. Some of the posts I've seen here would get everyone involved labeled sexual deviants for the shit they talk about in the open.

My question is, how do people adapt to it? I'm here doing my damn best to keep my mind out of the gutter because I've been taught thinking about anyone you don't want to date like that is disrespectful as hell and fucking creepy, but then I turn around and see people openly asking for hookups or rating each other's asses, and instead of people calling that shit skeevy, they either go along with it or treat it like a funny joke.

I know it's not prudishness, believe-you-fucking-me, my life would be easier if I was just naturally shy or reserved or whatever. It's an extreme form of culture shock, and I wish I didn't end up feeling like a dick constantly over the kinds of mental images I get from both the way people act in public around here and some of the things the prismals hand out as fucking party favors.
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[personal profile] pidgeypidge 2019-08-21 07:43 am (UTC)(link)
It was an experience. That was one thing they didn't do, though. Pick our partners for us, that is.

[Small victories, she supposed.]

I feel like the solution there would be to try and arrange it so that the majority of your cycle is spent with people you're more comfortable with. That way if something does happen, it's not as big a deal.

Have you?
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[personal profile] pidgeypidge 2019-08-21 08:07 am (UTC)(link)
For the record, the pheromones don't make you a creep any more than having thoughts about people does. Neither of them are something you have any control over.

[Which... isn't even close to anything he's said, but she figures it's something worth saying, and that it might help him to hear it.]

It happens. I can definitely relate to keeping your distance from most people during the cycle, though. There's a reason I tend to avoid my friends from home for those eight consecutive nights a month, after all.
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[personal profile] pidgeypidge 2019-08-21 08:24 am (UTC)(link)
I can see how that would make things complicated. Though I feel like that's probably a common worry amongst Cordis.

I'm glad to hear it. You deserve to not have to feel guilty about things all the time. And as far as I'm concerned, a little danger never hurt anyone.
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[personal profile] pidgeypidge 2019-08-21 11:36 pm (UTC)(link)
I dunno. I live with a Cordis and I've never found the pheromones to be much of a problem.

[It's probably a good thing this is all text, though, because the snort-laughter in response to that next comment is a little ridiculous.]

That's very considerate of you. Have you considered going into business? I'm sure there are people floating around who'd be into that.

[She's teasing, mostly, but she's also not going to tell him that just yet.]
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[personal profile] pidgeypidge 2019-08-26 04:54 am (UTC)(link)
Just a bit, maybe.

There are probably people around that offer that kind of service, too.

So. People who ask, eh~? 🤔
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[personal profile] pidgeypidge 2019-08-26 05:24 am (UTC)(link)
I mean.

It's not not a request.
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[personal profile] pidgeypidge 2019-08-26 06:09 pm (UTC)(link)
I might have to take you up on that.