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[foolishjustice]

I have a question, that...you'll probably understand my reasons for posting anonymously once you finish reading.

The local culture is very open and laid back about sexual interest. It's different as hell from my own home, where men who show sexual attraction are viewed as disgusting perverts and assumed to be dangerous, while people don't even fucking think about women having an interest in sex beyond wanting to have children. Some of the posts I've seen here would get everyone involved labeled sexual deviants for the shit they talk about in the open.

My question is, how do people adapt to it? I'm here doing my damn best to keep my mind out of the gutter because I've been taught thinking about anyone you don't want to date like that is disrespectful as hell and fucking creepy, but then I turn around and see people openly asking for hookups or rating each other's asses, and instead of people calling that shit skeevy, they either go along with it or treat it like a funny joke.

I know it's not prudishness, believe-you-fucking-me, my life would be easier if I was just naturally shy or reserved or whatever. It's an extreme form of culture shock, and I wish I didn't end up feeling like a dick constantly over the kinds of mental images I get from both the way people act in public around here and some of the things the prismals hand out as fucking party favors.

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[foolishjustice]

I won't deny I didn't really have many back home. I didn't really want to hang out with people who only gave a shit about my looks.

It is nice to know other people who understand. Most people think being pretty or famous makes everything easy, and don't stop to think how hard it makes things when fans forget you have a normal life, too.

[champagnetower]

For real, yeah! It's not always easy! Especially when people do freaky things like try to stalk you and murder you and your friends! It's like people forget how to function, you know? Something happens in their brain! But it really helps when you have people who have your back and can help you when things get to this extreme!

[foolishjustice]

I haven't had any of them trying to kill me, at least not yet. I do get plenty of them stalking me and trying to steal my shit, though. Or harassing people they see talking to me to make them tell how to get close to me. Or the fucking sexual harassment, like they think taking care of my looks means I want random strangers to tell me how sexy they think I am or chase me down for a photograph.

Maybe there should have been a support group for idols or something back home. I know one other person there who has to deal with this shit, too.