Goro Akechi (
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prismatica2019-08-21 12:30 am
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I have a question, that...you'll probably understand my reasons for posting anonymously once you finish reading.
The local culture is very open and laid back about sexual interest. It's different as hell from my own home, where men who show sexual attraction are viewed as disgusting perverts and assumed to be dangerous, while people don't even fucking think about women having an interest in sex beyond wanting to have children. Some of the posts I've seen here would get everyone involved labeled sexual deviants for the shit they talk about in the open.
My question is, how do people adapt to it? I'm here doing my damn best to keep my mind out of the gutter because I've been taught thinking about anyone you don't want to date like that is disrespectful as hell and fucking creepy, but then I turn around and see people openly asking for hookups or rating each other's asses, and instead of people calling that shit skeevy, they either go along with it or treat it like a funny joke.
I know it's not prudishness, believe-you-fucking-me, my life would be easier if I was just naturally shy or reserved or whatever. It's an extreme form of culture shock, and I wish I didn't end up feeling like a dick constantly over the kinds of mental images I get from both the way people act in public around here and some of the things the prismals hand out as fucking party favors.
The local culture is very open and laid back about sexual interest. It's different as hell from my own home, where men who show sexual attraction are viewed as disgusting perverts and assumed to be dangerous, while people don't even fucking think about women having an interest in sex beyond wanting to have children. Some of the posts I've seen here would get everyone involved labeled sexual deviants for the shit they talk about in the open.
My question is, how do people adapt to it? I'm here doing my damn best to keep my mind out of the gutter because I've been taught thinking about anyone you don't want to date like that is disrespectful as hell and fucking creepy, but then I turn around and see people openly asking for hookups or rating each other's asses, and instead of people calling that shit skeevy, they either go along with it or treat it like a funny joke.
I know it's not prudishness, believe-you-fucking-me, my life would be easier if I was just naturally shy or reserved or whatever. It's an extreme form of culture shock, and I wish I didn't end up feeling like a dick constantly over the kinds of mental images I get from both the way people act in public around here and some of the things the prismals hand out as fucking party favors.
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My father's an asshole who harasses women, and I spent most of my life either getting treated like shit for standing out or having to hide who I really am.
One of my friends thinks part of the reason might be that I assume nobody would be interested in me, so I always think of my attention as unwanted.
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It's hard to move on and deal with the behaviors you've learned.
Especially here where I have actually checked for psychological and mental help and it's just not applicable, given differing species, societies, worlds, etc.
I was taught, here, by people... you need to be kind to yourself and understand you haven't given up yet.
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Being kind to myself, though...that's not easy. I've done a lot of shit I regret, and it's hard to think of myself as deserving to be happy.
I had given up on myself for a while, but I am trying to change that. If only as a 'fuck you' to the people who wish I'd never been born.