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[foolishjustice]

I have a question, that...you'll probably understand my reasons for posting anonymously once you finish reading.

The local culture is very open and laid back about sexual interest. It's different as hell from my own home, where men who show sexual attraction are viewed as disgusting perverts and assumed to be dangerous, while people don't even fucking think about women having an interest in sex beyond wanting to have children. Some of the posts I've seen here would get everyone involved labeled sexual deviants for the shit they talk about in the open.

My question is, how do people adapt to it? I'm here doing my damn best to keep my mind out of the gutter because I've been taught thinking about anyone you don't want to date like that is disrespectful as hell and fucking creepy, but then I turn around and see people openly asking for hookups or rating each other's asses, and instead of people calling that shit skeevy, they either go along with it or treat it like a funny joke.

I know it's not prudishness, believe-you-fucking-me, my life would be easier if I was just naturally shy or reserved or whatever. It's an extreme form of culture shock, and I wish I didn't end up feeling like a dick constantly over the kinds of mental images I get from both the way people act in public around here and some of the things the prismals hand out as fucking party favors.

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[dereban]

Yeah.

And it's stupid sometimes. Like I know other countries sure don't do it, although those other countries have their own completely different set of problems.

[foolishjustice]

I've actually always liked the idea of traveling for that reason. Though, now I'm starting to realize that the habits are a bit too ingrained for just going somewhere else to be the entire solution.

[dereban]

"Going somewhere else" is kind of like running away, so I guess you could say that yeah, it's definitely not going to work out very well. Or at least, that's what I think. It won't solve everything.